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3 Universal Laws That Peak Performers Use To Get Powerful Results

A lot of people struggle to progress in their business.

They want to get more clients, get events happening and get the business success they know they’re capable of.

But not a lot of people actually do what it takes to take the right consistent action to go to the next level in contributing and succeeding.

I hear people say things like, “How has another week gone past and I still haven’t achieved X?”, or “How has another week gone by and I didn’t finish Y?”

When we don’t align what we’re doing on a day-to-day basis with our bigger goals and vision, we don’t have consistent progress. This causes us incredible frustration.

If you’ve noticed yourself in a pattern of putting hard things off, procrastinating or not following through on things you told yourself you’d do, this blog and video will help you.

What I love helping people in business with is not only WHAT to do, but WHY they are NOT doing things.

If you can ‘unplug’ the blockages, the flow starts to move again. It feels amazing!

It’s easy to get our head in our laptop and get stuck into actions and not think about whether they are the BEST actions to be doing right now.

Whenever I’m feeling like this, I love revisiting universal laws, because they are solid truth. Universal laws don’t change.

So, if want to perform at a higher level and improve your results – it helps to come back to universal laws.

Understanding universal laws can provide us with a compass to see where we’re currently at, and a roadmap for how we can move forward.

What I like to do is look at universal laws and truths through the lens of an entrepreneur and how to use them to grow in business.

There are many different universal laws, however, in this blog I’m going to talk about 3 of them.

1 – The Law of Vibration

The Law of Vibration states that “Everything in the universe has a frequency and a vibration,” “Nothing ever stands still, as everything is always either being pushed away from you or pulled towards you.”

Items of similar vibration are attracted to each other. So, to use this law to manifest what you want in business, you need to match your vibration with that of what you want.

Whatever you believe with feeling becomes your reality. You feel positive about yourself to the degree of your vibration. You feel negative about yourself to the degree of your vibration.

If you’re low, flat and annoyed, resentful and disappointed, you’ll attract more of those feelings. And we attract more of those things into our business and life.

If you’re feeling inspired, determined, confident and amazing, you attract more of that. You attract people who are also feeling like that way.

Have you noticed this in action?

Failure breeds failure. Success breeds success.

A client of mine recently said she’d never had a flat tyre in her life, and then she had 4 in 1 month.  I locked myself out of my apartment 3 times in one week.

When you’re putting out positive vibes, positive things start to flow around you. I’ve seen this so many times in my life and the lives of people around me.

For me personally, when I get on a roll and things are going wrong like if I get angry, kick my toe, or smash a plate, this law is triggered.  You attract that grumpy person at the post office or you find that everyone is driving slow when you’re in a big hurry.

What are you expecting to happen in your business? What are you actually expecting?

If you expect that you’re meant to be a great success in life, you’ll press through to your goals. Nothing will stop you.

But if you believe it’s just luck or a fluke, or it doesn’t really matter what you do today because nothing works, then you won’t push forward and you will be disappointed.

Happy people attract other happy people. A person with an abundant mindset attracts other people with abundant mindsets.

Everything you do and have in your life is because of who you are and who you have been.  You can have and do more because you can change who you are being.

You can keep your thoughts on what you want and refuse to think about what you don’t want.

The more you think of yourself and your life as uniquely brilliant and important, the more you attract the resources, ideas, opportunities and people to help you become the person you see in your future.

You’re surrounded by the outcome of decisions you’ve made in the past. You are also fully capable of making other decisions and attracting a different set of circumstances.

If you’re in the vibration of consistency, you’ll keep showing up and being consistent and writing content and doing those FB Lives and running those webinars that are going to lead you to success.

The more you believe it, the more likely it will happen. If you keep telling yourself that webinars don’t work, or Facebook ads don’t work, you are creating your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

Your beliefs become your reality. You have to believe in your success and practice believing it. It takes work to raise your vibration.

Whatever you expect with confidence becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy. What you get is not necessarily what you want in life, but what you expect.

Successful people expect to be happy, fulfilled, liked, and successful. People who show up at their events expecting to get clients are seldom disappointed.

Unsuccessful people have an attitude of pessimism, cynicism and negativity that causes situations to work out the exact way they are expecting.

The Law of Attraction and Vibration work in parallel with each other. You apply the law of Attraction and Vibration in your business by confidently expecting to gain something worthwhile from everything that’s happening to you in your life.

Instead of going down the path of negative thoughts that say it’s too hard, I can’t do this or things have gone terribly.  Choose to confidently expect that things are going to work out for you.

Imagine if you lived your life absolutely convinced that everything was conspiring to make you happy and successful? I have an action prompt for each of these 3 universal laws.

The first one is – What is a question I could ask myself every day to prompt a positive vibration?

The questions we ask ourselves before we get up and before we go to sleep are the most important questions we can ask ourselves.

If we want to produce more, at a higher level and achieve more progress and productivity, we want to wrap our day with powerful questions.

This is one way to raise your vibration.Your unconscious mind goes to work on the question throughout the day or the night.

Morning Questions to Raise Positive Vibrations

  1. How can I best be of service today?
  2. Who needs me to be at my A-game?
  3. How can I be my most powerful and confident self today?
  4. How can I use my time most effectively today?
  5. How can I show kindness today?

I think to myself that I have a community of people watching my life  (and so do you). You have a community of people watching your life and you have influence over them. I don’t take that responsibility lightly.

You can change someone’s mood with your vibration and positivity. The way that I show up affects other people.

Coaches know how much this is true. If you jump on a coaching call and you’re struggling, you can’t fake your vibration. It’s important that you start each day making powerful, positive choices that increase your positive vibration.

Evening Questions to Raise Positive Vibrations

  1. How many ways can I continue to become an even more effective coach?
  2. How many ways can I continue to become an even more wealthy business owner?
  3. How many ways can I trust more?

Using the law of vibration to our advantage is so motivating because it’s about our BFS – our Best Future Self. So it’s not just about having more money or more clients, it’s about the IDENTITY of WHO we want to be and see ourselves being in our future.

2 The Law of Correspondence

The Law of Correspondence states that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. This is your true self. Your outer world of health corresponds to your inner world of beliefs about your health. Your outer world of finances corresponds to your inner world of beliefs about money.

When you work on your inner world, you start to reflect and produce the result in the outer world.

Our lives are created by the subconscious patterns we repeat every single day, and these patterns either serve us or hold us back. And most of our patterns are unconscious, in fact around 90% are on auto-pilot.

Any thought or idea that you accept as true in your conscious mind will be accepted in your subconscious mind. It’s really important what we put into our conscious mind what we want and not what we don’t want.

This is because your unconscious mind will immediately go to work to bring it into your reality, making all your words, feelings, actions and even body language fit a pattern that’s consistent with your dominant thoughts and goals.

If you look at someone who is hunched over and really small in their body, no doubt their dominant thoughts are negative about themselves.

We can activate this law by becoming aware of your own patterns, and then consciously taking action steps to break them. We need to be intentional about this.

We need to take time each day to soak your mind in positive and uplifting thoughts. Whatever you dwell on long enough and hard enough, will eventually materialise in the world around you.

The more you think about something, the more it comes towards you. This is where coaching is so powerful. We can’t see our own blind spots.

Coaches reflect our unconscious mind back to us. They reflect back what’s really going on in our inner world. If your business, or your health, your relationships, your finances are not thriving, you need to clean up your thinking.

So I have a simple challenge. Give yourself one word to focus on every week. It could be brave, joyful, inspiring, grateful, organised, flow, consistent, abundant, focus, calm, resilient.

Repeat these words and write them down somewhere you can see it a lot and when you see it, speak it out over yourself. Doing this sets your sail in the right direction.

Words change how we feel. If we have worry, confusion, doubt and overwhelm playing around in our mind, our outer world will reflect it.

3. The Law Of Cause And Effect

The Law of Cause and Effect states that any action causes a reaction. Whatever you put out, whether it be good or bad, you are going to get right back at you.

There are specific actions for being successful and for being unsuccessful. Most people think that life is just happening to them and they are just an effect of what’s happening.

They don’t realise that they have the choice to be the cause. When you’re a cause, you take full responsibility for your results.

It’s not always easy to admit this. It’s a bit of a wakeup call. When you realise that everything you have or don’t have, is because of you, it can be confronting.

A lot of people are looking externally at other people or things instead of being present to themselves and the opportunities that they can create.

We’re thinking thousands of thoughts every day. When we’re at the effect side of the equation, the thoughts are usually about what is happening TO us, not what we are creating.

When we live at cause, not effect, we realise that if we want to attract something into our business or into our life, WE have to take ownership. We need to realise I’M the cause of what’s happening.

If you want incredible clients, you need to be an incredible client. If you want incredible wealth, you need to invest time energy and money into your wealth.

When you realise that everything that is happening in your life is because of you, you start to become present to opportunities, clients and creativity.

A lot of people are deleting and rejecting opportunities constantly because they’re living in effect and not taking productive quality outputs that really matter. If you want to attract something into your business, you have to be it!

I want clients who don’t get stuck in hesitation, so I don’t allow myself to get stuck in hesitation. I want clients who are happy and committed, so I am happy and committed first. I want clients who give referrals, so I work at being a coach who is worthy of referrals.

Whatever you are reaping today is the result of what you sowed in the past.  If you wish to reap a different result, you need to plant different seeds today.

Sometimes reaping the seed you’ve sown takes patience. If you have planted seeds in the ground, keep watering them with positive thoughts, positive words and actions. One day they are going to come up fast like bamboo. But it requires trust.

There’s sometimes a lag time between sowing and reaping. It’s almost like a test. Your life is not a sprint, it’s more like an ultra-long marathon.

This law shows you that we will be compensated for our work as long as we’re open to receiving in all the many ways that results can be delivered to us.

Have you had your free strategy session with me yet?

I offer a 45-minute call for first-time sessions where we uncover your blocks and challenges and help you get moving fast in your business.

This is only available for people ready to go to the next level. 

You can apply for your session here

Remember, the world is waiting for your brilliance!

I can’t wait to see you soon,

Kat

 

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5 Marketing Mistakes That Could Be Costing You

There are five costly marketing mistakes that you could be making, that could be costing you in your business right now.

These are all mistakes that I’ve guilty of making so I know them intimately, and I’ve learned how to overcome them, so now I want to help you avoid them.

Many business owners are making at least one of these mistakes at the moment.

1 – Being Too Timid

The first mistake that I see people making is being timid about what they offer. A lot of people say to me they don’t want to be pushy and they don’t want to come across as always talking business on Facebook.

What people fail to realise is there’s a clear difference between being pushy, and being bold as you share what you offer.

It’s so important that we are courageous and show up offering value, so that people will like you, trust you, build a connection with you, and want to take that next step towards you.

A number of people that I’ve spoken to this week have shared that they are afraid to step up and position themselves as an expert.

They’ve said things like:

“There’s so much info on Google, why would people listen to me?”

“I don’t feel I know enough”

“I’m worried I won’t come across as professional enough”

This is totally normal. Fear of criticism and judgment is a very real fear. I struggled with it for many years and succumbed to the imposter syndrome.

To be honest, fear very rarely goes away completely if you’re continually pushing outside your comfort zone.

We just need to act despite the fear.

When you push outside your comfort zone you can feel vulnerable and exposed. When you go on Facebook Live for the first time or hold a Zoom event, you are putting yourself out there for people to see.

Any creator, when they’re showing their work for the first time before it’s fully finished, can feel they’re putting their soul and heart on the line.

Your business is a form of your expression to the world and a form of creativity. When I started out in business, my brain was always sending me thoughts like “I’m not good enough”, or “no one will listen to me” or “someone might criticise me”.

But these are just stories we make up in our head. We’re not here on this planet to play small and have no voice.

We’re here to make a difference.

I heard a great quote the other day:

You don’t get criticised by people doing more than you, you only get criticised by people doing less than you.

I’ve found this to be so true in my journey. The millionaire mentors that I have, never criticise someone that’s further back on the journey from them.

If you want to have more influence and inspire people to take action, you need to be bold and brave with your offer and not hide away from sharing with people.

Share with boldness and don’t assume that people know what you do. When you start sharing with boldness and passion, it’s contagious.

 2 – Being Too Inconsistent

Inconsistency in marketing is a big mistake. A lot of people are very ad-hoc with their marketing and wonder why they’re not getting clients. They only really properly market when they’ve got an offer or event coming up, or when they are inspired, but then they won’t post any content for weeks at a time.

Remember, marketing is not about you. It’s about showing up to your tribe and your community. It’s about being there for people and showing value, even if that person never buys from you.

When you’re consistent, people can rely on you. They learn to trust you, and they get to know you more.

The people who come into my free discovery sessions are usually people are ready to take action, because they’ve consumed my content and because I’m consistent with it.

They’ve either gotten an email, read my blog, or seen a video in my Facebook group. They may have done one of my workshops or webinars.

When people connect with me in strategy sessions, it’s usually because they’ve had some prior interaction with me through my content.

You’ll really fast track your sales process when you show up consistently.

3 – Being Too Passive

The third mistake I see people make is being too passive, rather than proactive.

A lot of people wait for people to come to them. They think that if they put up a website or a few social posts, that clients will come to them.

Business doesn’t work like that. It takes hard work to build something of value. It takes time to craft webinars and events and videos and blogs that are helpful.

They don’t need to be perfect, they just need to be valuable.

You need to share value – share with people about your business and put your name out there as someone to speak at events, on a podcast or on someone else’s social media platform.

How much time do you spend creating great marketing content, landing pages or crafting emails and videos every week?

What is the amount of time in comparison with how much time you spend consuming Facebook, Netflix or YouTube?

The goal is to create more than you consume.

Get your name out there by contributing and sharing your gifts with the world in a bigger way.

Marketing not working? Try a different approach.

Everything is figure-out-able. Be teachable and willing to keep going UNTIL it works.

Make a choice today to start being more proactive with your business and seeking out more opportunities.

4 – Selling on Social Media

The next mistake I see is people trying to use social media to sell. Social media is not about selling, it’s about relationship building.

A lot of people use social media to jump into someone else’s Facebook group and promote themselves or an event or put up an offer.

Remember that people that are following you are not just a number or someone to give you likes.

You want to give value on social media.  Lead with generosity. Leading with generosity means being genuinely curious and helpful for those who comment and engage with you.

Be generous with your engagement with your followers.  You always want to give free and helpful advice before making an offer.

People need to understand what you offer and the benefits and reasons why they should buy your offer. You need to be clear on the pain points of those you are talking to. You can use social media to help people understand your expertise.

To grow your business, you need to take people from social media to your landing page – such as offering them a valuable freebie, which then captures their email address.

From there you can continue to give value through your ongoing emails and build trust and connection.

5 – Thinking Social Media Will Get You Clients

Social media very rarely gives you enough clients to build a profitable, sustainable business.

Social media is best when it’s combined as a strategy with landing pages and some type of offer – like a lead magnet/freebie or presentation, such as a zoom event.

Getting people onto your email list and capturing people’s details is crucial for growing your business. When people are on your email list, they are on your real estate.

Social media is not your real estate. Our real estate is our landing pages, emails and websites.

Landing pages convert 4 to 10 times higher than websites. So my website is full of links to landing pages because landing pages, which are stand-alone web pages.

On a landing page, people take one action. There are no distractions.

Landing pages have an opt-in action where they enter their name and email, and they go on to your email list.

Your email list is one of the biggest assets that you have as a business owner. You own it.

All of my clients that are doing well are doing so because they’ve got marketing funnels in place with landing pages. They are not doing well from social media alone.

I use Click Funnels and have a lot of different landing pages within it.

The reason I love Click Funnels is that it looks super professional. You can use it for up to 20 different funnels. You can use it for webinars and use it to host online courses. I host my webinar replays in there, you can do up-sells, cross-sells, down-sells – the works.

You can take payments easily through Click Funnels by integrating it with your merchant account like Stripe, so it’s beautiful and seamless. It has completely changed my business. I use templates so I don’t have to start from scratch.

Want to try it out?

You can access a free 14-day trial of Clickfunnels and access all my funnel templates, to save you starting from scratch.

Here’s the link

For the template links, drop me an email and I’ll hook you up.

So to recap the 5 marketing mistakes, they are:

1 – Being Too Timid

2 – Being Too Inconsistent

3 – Being Too Passive

4 – Selling on Social Media

5 – Thinking Social Media Will Get You Clients

Need some help?

For a limited time, you can apply for a FREE 45 minute 1:1 client attraction strategy session.

Here’s what you’ll get out of our time together:

  • A clear understanding of the challenges preventing you from signing up clients and how to solve them.
  • A personalised roadmap customised to your business to apply straight away
  • An easy-to-implement strategy to find your ideal clients & turn them into paying clients.

Apply here

All the best!

Kat

 

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5 Non-Sleazy Sales Secrets 

Sales… I know a lot of us don’t particularly love that word. It can conjure up images of people pushing their product on you that you don’t want…

…or some sleazy car salesman saying “Just for you, just today”…

Yechhh…

Because of all the conditioning we’ve received around sales people (i.e. people doing it in such a yucky way)…

… so many of us have resisted learning about sales because we thought selling meant being pushy.

When I left my corporate job in 2003 and became a personal trainer, I did NOT want to think of myself as being a sales person.

I just wanted to help people transform their bodies and their lives.

I remember going to a seminar once where the guy said, ‘Raise your hand if you’re in sales’. There was about 50 of us personal trainers sitting there in the room.

No one raised their hand! The guy said, “Well, good luck ever trying to grow your business and get more clients, if you don’t think of yourself as a sales person.”

I remember resisting what he was saying, even though he explained all the benefits of thinking of yourself as a sales person.The thought of being in ‘sales’ felt so disgusting and gross to me, I hated it. I thought if people wanted to work with me, they’d come to me. I didn’t want to have to convince anyone of anything or feel like I was being pushy.

As I went through my business journey,  I finally learned that there is a right and a wrong way to sell. Selling the right way is not being pushy, manipulative or trying to convince someone to do something they don’t want to do.

Selling correctly is what helps someone to change their life by investing in themselves. It’s what leads to their breakthrough.

So many business owners avoid the skill of sales because they don’t want to be spending time thinking about it – and it costs them greatly.

If you struggle to think of yourself as a sales person, start thinking about selling as influence. There is an art to influencing and inspiring someone to make a decision that can help them get out of pain and improve their lives.

And you can do it elegantly and authentically.

If you don’t believe that your product or service will help people improve the quality of their life, you shouldn’t be selling it.

If you are afraid of making someone an offer to buy something that could help them, you don’t have a conviction around what you’re offering.

It’s super important that you have an offer that you really want to share with people, and that you’re not afraid to share.

You can be great at marketing, presenting, making content and helping people get breakthroughs, but if you can’t sell your services, your business won’t last.

Sales is the lifeblood of your business. If you’re a business owner, it’s the only one way to increase the numbers in your bank account.

Sales equals freedom. Your ability to sell is in direct relation to how free you’re going to be in your business and life.

If you can master this skill, it will be a game-changer for your business.

I heard a statistic recently that I found interesting…

86% of people will pay more for a good experience.

People are wanting a good experience when it comes to buying from you and they’re willing to pay for it.

Here are 5 effective non-sleazy sales skills that will help you to sign up more clients…

1- Preparation

A lot of people aren’t prepared when they get on a sales call, and they flounder about, mumble and ask random questions that aren’t helpful. They do a lot of talking about their product.

We need to flip it so the person you’re talking to, is doing at least 70 to 80% of the talking.

Business people talk about their features and all the different things about the coaching program, but they don’t ask the right questions and they haven’t prepared well for the conversation.

You want to research your client’s situation, so you’re super clear on their pain points and their problems, their dreams and their desires. These are the four things that I’m always thinking about what am I am talking to a potential client.

I’m thinking about the client’s pain, problems, dreams and desires. You need to know these things, so you can help people to get a breakthrough, have a paradigm shift and realise they need to invest in themselves to get a good result.

You also need to research and understand the market. What’s happening in the trends and the marketplace. What’s current right now in your industry?

I recommend having a really good toolkit of awesome questions that you can ask. For example, when I jump into a discovery session or some type of clarity call with people, I’m always thinking about all the powerful questions to help them describe where they are currently at, and where they want to be.

The powerful questions I ask, help them articulate to me where they want to be in their best future self, their vision, their challenges and the consequences if they do and do not invest in themselves.

I use an ABC process:

Where ARE  you now?

Where do you want to BE?

What CHALLENGES are in your way?

I also go into what consequences they will have if they DO change and if they DON’T change.

You can say things like, “Hey by the way, if you don’t change, what will your life be like in 12 months’ time?  How about in 3 years’ time? And what will life be like if you do invest in yourself and make a change in this area?”

I used to work at Les Mills, which was a big chain in New Zealand, who had some of the best systems in the world. Their sales systems were immaculate! One of their sales questions was, ‘If you don’t change, what will your life be like?’ We were told to sit with people in this pain.

I didn’t want to do this, until I realised that I’m actually doing people a disservice if I’m not willing to sit in the pain with them. I needed to get in the hole with them and say, ‘I understand! Let’s climb out of this hole together.’

I know this sounds uncomfortable to get in a hole with someone, but if you had a loved one who was smoking and they had lung cancer and were going to die. Would you try to help them? You don’t want to be pushy. You want them to make a good, healthy decision.

Often people don’t think about the trajectory that they’re on. So it’s really important you do your preparation and you get some powerful questions, that bring things to the surface for people.

You’re not causing pain to the person, you’re highlighting the pain they will feel if they don’t change.

2 –  Positioning

When you’re having a sales conversation, there are two main positions that I recommend that you have. The first one is a position of credibility. Make sure you highlight your credibility.

The second position is humility. Credibility and humility go hand in hand and there is a sweet spot in the middle. You don’t want to be blowing your own trumpet too much, but you also want to help people understand that you can help them. You can say, ‘I’ve been blessed to work with some amazing people that I’ve learned a lot from in my career.’

There are 3 C’s that you need to have when you’re in a sales conversation:

  • Conviction
  • Confidence
  • Certainty

Conviction
You need to have 100% conviction, certainty and confidence when you are talking in a sales conversation. You need the conviction that what you’re offering is valuable, that it’s going to help people to get the result that they want.

Confidence
You want to have strong confidence. Can you imagine buying from someone who’s not confident? No, I can’t either!

Certainty
You need to have certainty about what you’re saying. This goes to your credibility. You highlight your strengths, your experience, your credentials, your expertise, qualifications, skills and your knowledge. And you need to do it with a certainty in your voice and tone.

Having humility when you’re presenting your credibility is important. Humility is all about gratitude and being grateful. It’s acknowledging your mentors and admitting you are standing on the shoulders of giants.

This is key. You don’t want to put yourself on a pedestal. You can share how you’ve learned so much from your business mentor and that through them you have been able to build your signature system.

So positioning, credibility and humility all go together. It’s really important in your sales call, that you’re the leader that you’re leading the conversation. You want them to feel that they’re in safe hands and that you are taking them on a pathway.

3 –  Presence

There are two things with presence. Firstly, you need to be really present in the moment with the person you are talking to. Notice what they are saying, what their body is saying if you’re on a video call.

If I’m on a video call with someone that I’m helping or it’s a strategy call, I’m not just listening for the words, I’m listening to the tonality. I’m watching their body language and taking note of what they are not saying.

I’m looking for every little sign to see if they can grow, if we are aligned and they are committed to really bring change into their lives. If someone’s tonality is out of alignment with their body language, I would take that into account in my manner of talking to them.

You can tell if someone is not present if they’re looking or sounding distracted. If you hold the moment and listen intently, you can pick up so much about what people are saying.

Deep listening speaks a lot to people. It feels terrible when people don’t listen to you. But if you’re responding and reacting to what the person is saying and then repeating back their power words and their emotional words, it feels amazing. And we can only do this when we are being truly present.

The second thing is your presence. Your actual presence is crucial. You want to make sure you’re coming from a place of genuine curiosity and caring. Have conviction and also come from a place of caring and love.

My thought is always, how can I help this person get what they want? How can I help them achieve what they need? This person has all the resources that they need. They have the power and everything they need to succeed within them.

4 – Prizing

Prizing is all about remembering that you are the prize. 

This is all about you valuing yourself.

This doesn’t mean that you are better than other people, but you’ve got to remember that they have a problem and you have the solution.

A lot of people go into sales calls thinking, “I’ve got a problem and I need to pay my bills. I need to sell to this person and they are going to pay my bills.”

This is not the energy that you want to come across with in a sales call.

You want to be totally detached from the outcome. You want to be committed and caring to them, but you need to detach from whether they buy from you or not. And that’s knowing that you’re the prize.

You don’t have to convince them of anything.

I’ve heard it described as like cats and dogs. Dogs are really excited and they come running up to you. But cats are completely different. They sit and groom themselves, and they know you will come up and pat them, because they know they are the prize.

If you think of the contrast, you have some really excited person, saying please, please, please pay attention to me, come and buy from me. Whereas, someone that knows they are the prize will think that they are the solution to a person’s problem.

As a coach you don’t want hundreds of people. You only want 10-20 people, so it’s important to fill your calendar with the people that are exactly the right match for you.

5 – Playfulness

When you’re doing sales, you need to be relaxed and have a little fun. It’s okay to be cheeky and fun. People will relate with you and want to be around you if you know how to have a little bit of fun. Don’t be so rigid and take it too seriously.

Of course, you still need to remain professional and helpful. It’s a balance.

But most people are more likely to buy from someone who is having fun and enjoying themselves.

Many people get so attached to making a sale, that they forget to let go and have fun in the process.

If you ever watched “The Apprentice” you’d see that the people who were friendly and playful would be the ones who made the most sales and had the most enjoyable conversations.

 

 

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3 Powerful Influencing Methods To Inspire People To Change

Would you like to be able to better influence people?

If you are in business, it is likely that you have already come across the value of being able to influence people.

Being able to influence people for good is one of the most powerful forces on the planet.

Some people wonder whether influence is about being manipulative or pushy, or trying to convince someone to do something that they don’t want to do.

True influence – when it comes with a pure, genuine desire to be of service – is about being able to help people to get MORE of what they want.

Influencing for good is about INSPIRING people to take action to ultimately improve the quality of their life.

People experience remarkable magic when they’re inspired and feel the energy of their vision.

Being able to influence people is an honour – it means that they have your respect and your trust. I

If you want to help people have powerful breakthroughs and transform their lives, you’ve got to be able to influence them.

Influence is an incredibly powerful skill to learn and master.

Since 2003, I’ve been so blessed to work with thousands of people and helped influence them to make positive changes in their lives.

Some people wonder whether influence is being manipulating or pushy, or trying to convince someone to do something that they don’t want to do.

Influence – when it comes from the right place of wanting to genuinely HELP people – is not about trying to change someone’s mind. It’s about INSPIRING them to take action on what THEY want.

True influence, married with a pure desire to help, is about being able to help people to get MORE of what they want, and ultimately improve the quality of their life.

There are many different ways we can use influence in business and marketing, whether that’s on your Facebook or in an email that you send out. Maybe it’s on video or your landing pages on your website.

Influence through marketing can be used in a sales conversation or inviting someone to make a decision to buy your product or service – it’s helping someone to make a decision to take new action.

We Want to Influence People to Help Them Get Clear on What They Want

If you’re a coach or consultant or a healer or practitioner, you work with people to help them improve their lives.

To be able to influence, you need to help people to identify what’s in the way of getting what they want.  If they’re in one place, and they want to be in another, help them identify what is actually in the way and what is stopping them getting what they want.

Identify what the block is specifically. They may have a vague idea. Help them to actually overcome that block. It may be a limiting belief or a block of some type of emotion, like fear or doubt. Part of influence is actually helping them to overcome the block and have a breakthrough.

People have breakthroughs when they’re fully aligned with their values and they feel the energy of it and they can imagine and see the breakthrough.

Think about the last time that you had a breakthrough. It could be a little breakthrough like a penny dropping, or it could be a complete epiphany moment and be absolutely transformational. The breakthrough comes in a range on the spectrum.

If you want to help people have more breakthroughs and transform,  you’ve got to be able to influence them.

Authentic Influence as a Tool

Influence in itself is a tool. And like any tool you can use it for bad or for good. Any method or technique or strategy can be used for good or bad, so techniques and methods in and of themselves are neutral, it’s how you use them that makes them positive or negative.

Being able to influence effectively helps people:

? Get clear on their future vision

? Identify what’s in the way of they want

? Overcome their blocks

? Have a breakthrough

? Improve the quality of their lives

1 – Uncover Their BFS: Best Future Self 

The first way to influence someone to actually change is to help them to uncover their best future self. Last week I spoke about our future self and how you can really tap into that vision that you have of yourself.

We want to discover who their best future self is.

To do that, encourage them to think into the future and put themselves there. Who are they and what are they doing when they envisage the best version of their future self?

Thinking of your best future-self inspires you, lifts up your energy level and you have amazing feelings when you think about it.

Remember that people don’t want your product or your service. They don’t want a coaching session. They want to feel like they can become their best future version of themselves.

We don’t want to just focus on the method of how we help people transform, we want to focus on the version of themselves that they would like to become.

Keep their best future self at the top of their minds.  You want to ask people to remember that vision of themselves, of being the best and why it’s important to them.

So many people when they’re having sales conversations and trying to influence, they don’t understand this.   They like to rush it and wonder why people aren’t signing up with them.

I’ve done this myself! I was in fitness for 15 years. I always just wanted to rush people to the transformation and jump into a 12-week challenge so they could start losing the weight, instead of taking the time to really find out why it was so important to them to lose the weight.

I needed to ask why it was so important for them to lose the 10 kilos. Was it because they wanted to attract a dream partner or another reason?

Asking people their ‘why’ is a really powerful question to use.

An example you would say is; “I just want to go a little bit deeper now. Could you tell me, why is it really important to you right now?”

Often they may give you a surface reason at first, so asking if you can go a bit deeper to get the real reason is important.

When I’m in a conversation with someone and helping them to be inspired to change, I like to really take notice of the things they say, the things that come out with extra power and extra life.

I was recently having a chat with a lady who said she really wanted to do a TED talk. I asked her to tell me what her life looked like in her future vision. She said it was very important to her because she wants to feel as though she’s achieved something.

She said a lot of other things, but when she talked about doing a TED talk and her reason for it, there was extra emotion, energy and power in her voice. This is what had power in it, and it’s here that she is really connected to this vision.

When you are talking to people, you need to take note of the power words that people are connected to. It’s when they are talking about these passionate topics, that they feel a shift in their body. That is real influence.

2 – Listen Intently

Listen deeply and intently to people’s feelings anytime they talk emotional words. Listen for any type of feeling when they speak in images. If they share that they can imagine it, see it and feel it, then feedback to them what you are hearing.

It’s so powerful when you deeply, intently listening to someone, and for someone to repeat their keywords back to them. Their pathways are being painted back to them and the person you are listening to will say, ‘They get me’.

It’s just such a beautiful feeling when someone acknowledges the things that are important to you.  If you’re really listening to someone and they’re talking a lot, you don’t want to interrupt them, but take notes. Once they have finished talking you can feedback to them how you understood, using their keywords.

You want to be listening so deeply it’s like having a bubble around you. When I’m having a conversation on zoom it’s quite easy. It’s just the two of you, but if you’re in a live event, I just imagine a bubble around me and I focus and listen only to that person.

You can notice when there is a notable shift in a person. It shows in the tonality of their voice and in their body language if you’re on a video call.

If you’re on the phone, you can hear emotion in the voice and you can hear the tonality shifting, so you want to really be  present and listening deeply.

When you notice the energy and emotions in their feelings and in the imagery you are hearing, then feed that back to them.

3- Share Your CPR
C = Credibility
P = Process
R = Results
C – Credibility

When you want to influence someone to work with you, or listen to what you have to say or to your presentation, or if you’re just going to educate them on Facebook Live,  you want to share your credibility.

Share what kind of experience, knowledge and skills you have. Why should someone work with you? Why should someone listen to you?

I remember when I was a personal trainer and worked at a gym, there was once a guy doing a cooldown and leaning back and jerking his neck. They gym instructor went flying up to him and instead of saying asking if he could share a way that could be more effective, he literally shouted out ‘Stop’, and the whole gym looked around as if he was doing something wrong.

You need to frame your advice with your credibility. So you might say to the person, that you’ve worked as a gym trainer for the last 10 years, and you can ask them if they would mind if you shared an effective cool down that will also help protect their back.

Because you’ve shared your credibility, suddenly that person will be open to listen and hear what you are going to offer them and they will be more influenced to change.

Always start with your credibility. And that’s why a lot of times when I talk on videos I talk about how long I’ve been in business, or how many people I’ve coached, because some of those people watching me, may not know my background, so telling my experience builds credibility.

P – Process

You want to share the process that you recommend people go through. So rather than just dumping a whole lot of information at them, and giving them advice, explain a process.

For example you could say to someone, “You told me that you want to do a TED talk and it’s really important to you, because you want to prove to yourself that you can do it. You also want that sense of achievement right?”

I would continue, “For the last 10 years, I’ve been helping people to improve their presentation skills. This is the process that I take people through to get that.  The first step you need to identify your audience…” Then I’ll go through and explain the steps.

People love step-by-step and they love organised knowledge. There’s so much information around on YouTube, Google and blogs and webinars, but people want organised knowledge and a clear process of what they can do straight away.

They want to know what they do first, what they do second and they want to receive your expertise in a process.

Tell them the process that they need to go through in order for them to achieve results.

R – Results

The third thing is to share what results people will be able to create, if they follow your process.

So for example, I would say, ‘Over the last 17 years, I have been running successful businesses and I’ve been really blessed to have helped hundreds of people to achieve results.’

I would then continue, ‘I’ve discovered there’s a clear process that successful people go through to get their results. The first step is to identify your ideal client and locate them. The second step is packaging your unique brilliance and organising your content in a way that’s digestible for people…’ etc.

I describe my process and the results that my future client will get from going through this process.

I then describe what the results ultimately mean for my future client, and how it will help them to create a profitable business, with time flexibility and freedom.

So to recap the 3 Powerful Influencing Methods To Inspire People To Change
1 – Discover Their BFS: Best Future Self 
2 – Listen Intently
3- Share Your CPR

It’s my mission to help people increase their influence and make a positive, meaningful impact in the world.

Leaders helping leaders to influence → helping leaders to influence. What a massive ripple effect! 

What to make a bigger impact?

Come join my free Facebook group ‘Amplify Your Influence’ for passionate, service-based entrepreneurs.

I look forward to seeing you there!

Kat

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5 Habits Of High Performing Entrepreneurs

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what makes entrepreneurs successful.

I’ve been deep-diving into the work of Brendon Burchard, Brooke Castillo, Brian Tracy, Tony Robbins, and others to see what separates successful people from the rest.

Today I’m going to be talking about the habits of high performing entrepreneurs and specifically 5 habits that I think are the most important habits to develop.

Before I get into that…Some of you may not know that in 2006, I started competing in bodybuilding competitions.

I wanted to see what was possible for me.

And I didn’t just want to do compete, I wanted to win.

In the lead up to my first competition, I immersed myself in learning about the champion mindset. I wanted to know what thinking makes people champions.

I hired a world master champion bodybuilding coach, Jo Stewart.

I said to her “Jo, I want to win” and told her that I don’t want to do this for just the fun of it.

Ok don’t laugh… this is me in 2006…. I obviously wanted my hair to be bigger than my muscles 😉

To win, I had to start developing the mindset of a champion. So I started listening to CD’s of people who were champions and the mindset they had.

Over time I ended up doing 10 different competitions… (it became a bit addictive!)

I wanted to keep improving my time or improve my score and get better. And so I ended up competing every year for 7 years.

Throughout those years, I really started to learn the principles of champions.

Successful athletes, like all successful people make choices every day that lead them to becoming winners. These are often the choices they make when no one else is watching.

So what are some of the top habits of high performing entrepreneurs? Here are five…

1 –  Think About Your Best Future Self

High performing entrepreneurs think about their best future self. I like calling it my ‘future self’. Successful people take themselves out into the future, and they think about who they want to become.

And when you can see that dream and you believe it, it becomes your reality. You start acting like that person that you want to be, before you become it.

If you believe you’re meant to be great and be successful, you will press through to your goals, and nothing will stop you. If you believe that success is luck or a fluke, then you will be disappointed. And you will just keep stuck in a cycle that will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Successful people start acting successfully now in the present time. They are their BFS – their Best Future Self.

What are 3 words that describe your best future self?

Maybe you want to be brave, maybe it’s courageous, aspirational, ambitious, confident, playful or organised?

I often go out into my future self. I’m constantly thinking about future Kat and what she’s doing and what she’s like.

I’ve got to really be intentional about it. Take for example; my future self is being super organised, as I don’t feel like it’s a natural gift for me.  But I train myself to be organised.

You want to choose the words that make you feel something where you actually really believe it. If you haven’t stopped lately to envisage your best future self and who that person is out in the future, then I encourage you to do that today and make a practice of it.

The person you are today is a result of everything you’ve done up to this point. All the seeds that you’ve planted in your life, everything that you’ve done is a result of your past choices.

If you look at your health right now,  it is a reflection of how you used to view yourself. If you look at your bank account, the finances sitting in your bank account are a reflection of who you used to think you were so it’s all related to self-worth.

If you look at your relationships. Are they thriving, or is there conflict?  It’s all related to how you see yourself and your identity.

Ask yourself, how you’ve been in your business in the past couple of months. Do you want to be this person in the future? Are you being your best future self in your business right now?

If you haven’t been operating as your best future self. Ask yourself, if you were, how would you behave in the future? And then start acting like that now!

High performers are not on autopilot, they’re intentional. They think about their character and their legacy. They’re looking out of today into the future and bringing the future to themselves.

2 –  Study And Develop Skills Within Your Primary Field Of Interest

If you’re not an entrepreneur just yet, but you want to be, this is for you also. It’s actually for all humans at any stage of their lives!

High performers study and develop skills within their primary field of interest. What three skills are you working on developing and practicing at the moment?

Are you developing your sales or marketing skills? Are you doing a course on making Facebook ads? Or are you working on learning copywriting?

Entrepreneurs should always be working on increasing at least 3 skills. This is not a scattergun approach. It’s deliberately choosing skills to push you and your business forward.

Each quarter I have 3 skills that I choose to grow in. I deliberately block out my calendar and put aside time for learning.

I find time to up-skill while I’m doing other things. I like listening to books while I’m cooking, driving or walking. I listen to the people who are living their best self and who are successful, people like Tony Robbins, Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy and others.

I deliberately learn other skills each quarter so I’m constantly up-skilling. I learn what I need to go to the next level.

When we get stuck and stop, we are then not attracting clients.  High-performance people schedule time in to become masterful in the areas they desire.

3 – Be Solution Minded, Not Problem Minded

High performing entrepreneurs focus on the solution and not the problem. Instead of focusing on what they don’t want, they get super clear on what they do want.

Think thoughts linked to your future self.  When you focus on solutions, when something bad happens, you don’t get stuck in disappointment.

Choosing a solution and growth mindset can become a habit. When problems come their way, entrepreneurs switch on. When COVID hit, successful entrepreneurs switched on and found solutions.

In times of trouble, successful entrepreneurs become resourceful and come up with creative solutions. We need to allow ourselves to really think on purpose, to be creative and to trust our unconscious mind.

Something that I do every morning and night, is I write out my vision. I say things like; I’m so happy and grateful now that I’m a highly successful, wealthy entrepreneur who has built my business on courage and effort.

In doing this, I’m re-wiring my subconscious brain. Because then my unconscious mind will go to work and come up with solutions to match this identity. In writing things down it drops from your conscious to your subconscious.

4 – Be Intentional About Your Daily Habits

There are habits in your life that are intentional, but that you almost do subconsciously, like brushing your teeth. Then there are habits in your life that you develop intentionally, based on your future self.

Every day you’re planting the seeds and you’re watering the seeds of your future self and you can trust that they are going to bloom into a beautiful tree. Your business will be like a beautiful tree with a solid foundation and deep roots.

Every Wednesday I don’t take on coaching clients. I block off my calendar and I up-level my business. I sit there and I upgrade things like I tweak my website wording or my LinkedIn profile. If I am intentional at doing this weekly, then it doesn’t become a big thing.

Everything is increasing and improving because of my consistent, little habits that I’ve developed.

A good example is me turning up on Facebook Live every Wednesday night. It’s a choice for me to be consistent.  I choose it because I know there are people out there who I can help.

It’s the little habits that don’t seem like a big deal but when you add them up they end up being habits that produce high-performance entrepreneurs.

5 – Be Intentional About How You Serve Others

A rich fulfilling life is a life that benefits others.

Every day I ask myself how I can serve my clients with excellence and make an extraordinary contribution in their lives today.

Instead of asking what do I want and how can I get it,  I ask myself; How can I bring more value to my tribe?  High-performance entrepreneurs are outwardly focussed, not inwardly focussed.

They don’t blame others. They realise that every result they have in their life is a result of what they have done. They don’t make excuses or live in denial.

Instead of getting stuck in their fears, they go to work and deal with their fears and doubts, because they want to be of service to other people.

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