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How To Overcome Your Fear Of Being Visible Online

Do you find yourself procrastinating on putting up that blog post, recording a Facebook Live video or sharing your expertise on social media?

Maybe you post occasionally, but you don’t post boldly and position yourself as an expert.

In this video and blog post, I share with you how to overcome your fear of being visible online.

What do I mean by being visible online?

I mean posting boldly and authentically – on social media, on your website, on all the different platforms that you can be out there in the online world.

Stepping up and owning your space.

Taking authority in your area, in your niche.

Positioning yourself as an expert.

I know that a lot of people have fear around this. I definitely did.

I knew I needed to post more … but I had so much fear coming up.

Thoughts like…

“Who do I think I am?”

“Why would people listen to me?”

“I don’t know enough yet”

“What if people don’t like what I share?”

‘People are gonna find out that I don’t know everything about this topic and therefore what’s the point?

“I can’t put myself out there until I know more”

Impostor syndrome. It’s a killer of dreams!

So, why is it so important to be visible online?

Well, if you’re a small business owner, if you’re wanting to increase your clients, if you wanted to grow your business, if you’re wanting to have a real impact in the world and help more people, you really need to master the ability to put yourself out there to be visible.

That genius zone that you have the gifts that you have. You really need to step up and be out there regularly, consistently and not hiding behind your laptop.

I was talking to a friend today and we were discussing how we used to hide behind our laptop. We used to stay in our comfort zone and we just thought there was something wrong with people not signing up with us.

We thought we were doing all we could.

We were creating content but actually, we weren’t really putting ourselves out there in a way that our full potential called for.

You can kind of dabble a little bit, post a little here and there, put up a motivation quote now and then… but when I’m saying being visible – I mean stepping up, owning a space.

I mean having an opinion, having a voice, sharing your message and not hiding behind things that aren’t really your full essence of what you’re here to do on the planet.

What you’re here to actually achieve and the purpose of why you’ve been born.

I struggled with fearing being visible for years and I learned some really cool strategies that have helped me to be able to just consistently get out there despite the fear.

So, I’m going to go through 3 strategies that you can use to be more visible to show up in a big way. To do what you know you’re here on this planet to do and make the impact that you’re here to make.

1. Identify the belief that’s causing the fear

The first thing that you want to do is identify the belief that’s actually causing the fear. Identify the belief that’s causing the fear.

There’s some kind of belief that you have that’s driving this fear of not wanting to play full out. Not wanting to say everything that you wanted to say. Not wanting to fully own the whole message. You might just be bringing parts of yourself to the world. You’re just showing a little bit.

I’m not saying show everything about your whole life, but about your message. You’ve got to know what’s effective – what’s going to be the best outcome to the people that are following you.

There’s a belief that’s driving to fear us so, whenever we have a belief, A belief is basically every thought that we accept as truth. Every thought that we accept as truth is a belief.

You don’t have to believe every thought that you think. Just because a thought pops into your mind, we don’t have to believe it. We don’t have to play to it.

We can choose whether we want actually believe that thought.

So, if you have fear, it’s coming from a thought and you want to identify what is actually the belief.

So once you’ve identified the, you might think “I know what’s causing the fear. I’m actually scared that someone is gonna see me online who knows that in my past I’ve done things incongruent to actually what I’m sharing, the message that I’m sharing now.”

I’m saying this as an example because I was talking to a client today and it’s exactly what she said.

And the truth is that is true for all of us because where this life there is mess, when there’s humanity, there’s imperfection.

All of us live out of alignment with what we’re teaching at some point in time, because we’re human.

So if you put this bar on yourself that you have to be perfect all the time, it waters down your message. That’s gonna keep you really small. That’s gonna stop you from being visible.

So you’ve got to find the belief.

Maybe it’s that you feel like you don’t know enough, that you’re not smart enough. Maybe you feel like you aren’t pretty enough to get on camera. Or that you don’t know enough about technology.

Maybe the belief is that you need to go into another course.

Maybe you think you need to have 5 successful clients and have testimonials before you can actually say that you are an expert in this space.

The truth is, you can start helping people right away. You don’t need to have a certain amount of people in your email list or a certain amount of facebook followers.

You can literally start helping people now.

I used to have a belief that I had to have a certain amount of followers, and a certain size of email list before I could start teaching other people. That’s not true. I can help my clients right now, because I know how to teach them what I’ve learned and applied myself.

Sometimes we wait until we’ve got things all perfectly together. And the cost of that is, people miss out on your genius. They miss out on what you can bring out to the world to help them because you’re letting this fear hold you back.

Maybe you’re believing that you’re believing something that’s keeping you small. It’s keeping you invisible. It’s stopping you from stepping up. You need to identify what I need to believe in order to take action.

I’ve talked to many people who feel like they have to have all these steps in place before they go out on social media and share their message or own their niche.

It’s stopping them putting that first authentic message out, or that first Facebook Live, that first post actually teaching on your area of expertise or your topic.

That belief doesn’t serve you or your tribe.

Also, sometimes, it’s about getting out there – even though you still feel the fear.

When you can actually really learn how to control your mindset around it, that actually reduces the fear.

I’m not gonna try and pretend that the fear completely goes away, because it actually doesn’t.

The fear is there every time we push it out of comfort zone, every time we go and up that level.

That fear is gonna try and keep us safe. And that’s a good thing, you know, it’s just part of our brain that wants to keep us safe. So actually, it’s good to accept that the fear’s never gonna go away.

You just have to learn to take action despite the fear.

Remember the fear is driven by a belief. Identify the belief, write it down.

 

2. Identify the belief needed to take action

What belief do you need to believe in order to take action?

Maybe you need to believe that perfection doesn’t exist.

That it’s all about progress, not perfection.

That there are people out there benefit from what I’m sharing even if I don’t have 10 clients. Even if I’m not perfect.

Let’s say you’re a Health Coach and you think “I need to lose weight and I need to be at my perfect size before I can be a health coach because people are going to judge me otherwise”.

You need to know that your approach to someone has nothing to do with your own personal results. That is making it about you.

 

Yes, some people might judge the material, of course, there are gonna be some people out there who judge.

But if you think about all the examples of coaches who are helping people and they are not as good as the player.

So, for example, Tiger Woods, his coach is not as good a golfer as Tiger Woods, but he’s an excellent coach.

There are multiple examples in Sport where the actual coach is not better than the player but they’re just excellent at coaching.

So just because you haven’t reached a certain level doesn’t mean you can’t coach people in it, cause you absolutely can!

If you make it all about your results and you haven’t to achieve perfection before you can help others, you’ll be waiting a long time and people will be missing out.

It’s just something that you gotta decide “What belief do I need to have to get myself out there and be visible?”

For example “I need to believe that what I say is valuable and worthy of people listening to it and responding to it”.

If you don’t believe that, people pick up that energy because you’re not owning the worth. Build your self-worth.

You may need to write out a list of reasons why you deserve it to do that. Write then reasons why what you have to offer is valuable.

I recommend 80 minimum reasons (100 is better) WHY – you really need to live out of the belief you need to take action.

For example, I need to believe that it’s not about perfection, it’s about being visible. That someone is going to get helped with what I have to share in the world.

That simple belief I need to operate from and that fuel that drives you, that’s gonna be such a more powerful fuel than operating out of fear.

Think – “What do I actually need to believe in order to get visible?”

Well, first of all, I need to believe that if people judge me or not, that’s none of my business.

I need to believe that if people think I’m not good enough, it’s none of my business. I’m not gonna let that person who might judge me, stop me from all these people getting benefit from.

For me, I was really worried about what my ex-boss might think. So all these people that could benefit from what I offered missed out because of this one person who wasn’t even my ideal client that I don’t even see anymore – that’s actually quite ridiculous.

When you figure out who’s the SPECIFIC person that you’re most afraid of, you can do practical things like not share it to them.

You can customise your Facebook, so you’re actually not showing it to these certain people that make you feel like that.

Or you can say, this is me. It’s too hard to pretend to be someone else and all these people are missing out if I don’t do it.

 

3. Strengthen your why

If you’ve done any kind of reading about leadership, about business, so many of them come back to this “why” and what is your ‘why’? Simon Sinek talks a lot about it. Many great successful people talk about it.

Sometimes we lose track of our why. If we are thinking about ourselves and thinking about what we are gonna get out of it, we probably won’t be motivated at all or inspired to take action and actually be out there and be visible.

But if we are thinking about our why, about the stronger, bigger reason, the reason that is beyond us or bigger than us, that is gonna motivate us.

That is gonna fuel us and drive us to actually take action and do hard things, do uncomfortable things.

I used to hate, doing Facebook Lives. I felt so awkward. I was judging myself so much. So fearful of other people judging me. You know if I said um’s and uh’s. And if I didn’t get it all perfect.

I’ve never done a perfect Facebook Live, ever! Always had some kind of stumble, always had some kind of, I haven’t expressed myself so eloquently as I wanted to.

But people still get help from my Facebook Live and I get messages all the time saying that “It was really helpful” or “I’ve applied that” or “This was exactly what I needed to hear”.

If I had let that desire for perfection hold me back and make me fearful of being visible and showing up online even when I didn’t feel like it. If I succumb to that fear, I would never have got better at it.

Competence builds confidence.

When you feel more comfortable with something, you feel more confident, right?

We have to show up and be visible and not get it perfect and let go of that fiction. And a really good way to do it is to make sure we understand why it’s so important.

You might know your why, logically know your why, but we need to strengthen the why.

With strength in it, through repetition, through reminding ourselves all the reasons why it’s so important.

What you can do with this strategy is literally write down as many reasons as you can think of why it’s important for you to show up and be visible.

That is gonna be the fuel, the emotional fuel that going to drive you to do it – even if you don’t feel like it.

Or it’s going to make you feel like doing it.

Sometimes it’s the case of showing up because you’ve committed.

I show up to do a Facebook Live video every week because I’ve committed to that. Even though I don’t always feel like it. But I have such a big reason for doing it. I’m so connected to my ‘why’ because I’m so passionate about helping entrepreneurs.

I want to help more people to help more people to help more people – because the ripple effect of leaders getting on purpose, the ripple effect of leaders stepping up and being brave and bold and being visible and out there is gonna impact families, impact communities.

So my WHY is so much bigger than me, right?

It’s not about me thinking “What I’m gonna get out of it”. It’s actually when I focus on the message that I’m sharing – when I focus on what’s coming through me as a message, I can get the download and I pour it out.

It’s like a songwriter that’s releasing the song into the world. And then that song becomes everyone’s song.

If the songwriter had held that in, and not been visible, not taken it to their band in its infant stage before it was developed and crafted, then the rest of the world would have missed out on those songs.

I know this because I used to write songs for a band. There was that level of vulnerability when you take your song idea to a band and say “Hey, this is my idea, it’s not fully formed, it’s not fully crafted.”

You’re presenting an idea and you’re throwing it out there for judgment.

Or that art piece, or whatever it is that people who have created it. There’s always an element of vulnerability when we get visible when we put ourselves out there.

There are 2 different things that we can focus on, we can focus on the limiting belief, the mindset, the root cause of what is driving us to feel not good enough, not smart enough, not whatever enough, it’s always about not being enough.

Work on that mindset and we need to chip away that mindset or we can just take action despite that mindset and let the belief catch up themselves.

And beliefs do start to change when we take action and give our brain evidence to prove it wrong.

We’ve got to give our brain evidence that would say it’s actually quite enjoyable to share our message.

If you think about it, you get a captive audience – probably not your friends and family (because they are bored of you talking about business!)

So you can put it into a group or into a business page when you know that people are gonna get helped by it. How much joy is it in that? You get to share your message!

This is probably a big part of why you’re in business – because you want to share your message and have a bigger impact. You want to help people to get inspired. Get on purpose and change their life.

Being visible allows you to do this.

So to strengthen that why you might think “How is my being visible going to get all of my highest values?”

And then you realise – being visible is going to help me help more people. Being visible is going to give me more income. To help me make more impact. It’s going to help me get better as a speaker. It’s going to help me craft my messages.

There are so many benefits. So I recommend that to strengthen that why that you write them out.

That is no match for fear. Love is stronger than fear.

Connect them with your why, with your heart, your passion, your reasons, and NOTHING will stop you from being out there.

So I’m going recap that three ways to overcome your fear of being visible:

1 – Identify the belief driving that fear

2 – Identify the belief that you need to get visible

3 – Strengthen your why

These are the exact steps I took to get myself (a self-confessed recovering people-pleaser, perfectionist, and introvert) out there and successfully running a profitable business.

They work!

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2 Compelling Traits You Need In Order To Influence People

In this video and blog post, I share with you 2 compelling traits you need in order to influence people.

 

What are the compelling traits that you need in order to influence people?

We’re not born with the skill of being able to influence people, it’s something that we need to practice and master. And we can keep getting better for the rest of our lives.

Authentic influence is about helping people to get what they want, to understand what are the limiting beliefs, some of the mindsets that are stopping them from getting what they want, and becoming the most awesome version of themselves.

If you want to grow your business, attract more clients, make more money and help more people, then you need to learn how to be a compelling person and how to magnetise people towards you.

You need to know how to be charismatic, how to be confident, how to be attractive to the people that you’re serving, that you’re helping.

So think about right now, think about the people in your life that you are influencing, that you’re having an influence over, and the people that you want to have more fun with.

Whether that is your tribe, your community.

It might be your followers on Instagram or Facebook.

The people that are watching your life – maybe people that your clients are coming to see your workshop.

It could be people that you want to attract into your business.

Maybe it’s your peers or colleagues or joint venture partners with – there are so many different people that we influence.

We also influence our friends and our family.

You’re already an influencer, you’re already influencing people as it is.

So if you want to get better at it, there are two traits that you really need to have in balance.

There’s always an equal and opposite reaction.

Whenever there is light there is dark, whenever there is good, there is bad.

That opposite, that polarisation happens all throughout the laws of the universe if you think male: female, masculine: feminine.

And these are the two traits that we need.

Number one, we need strength.

And number two, we need warmth.

Strength and warmth are key attributes that define the quality of our relationships with others.

If you think about it, if we have the strength and we don’t have any warmth, we’re not particularly compelling and attractive and influential.

Imagine someone really strong, direct, blunt, really kind of forceful, with no warmth – that can be a real turnoff.

And then imagine someone really warm, really loving, very feminine energy. But it’s not strong at all, it’s just too much on the warmth end of the spectrum. It can be too fluffy and overly ‘nice’.

They also are not compelling, because we don’t always feel safe with them or that they are going to give us a result.

To be compelling, we need both.

Strength

Strong people exude a sense of inner ability, strength and confidence. We can be influenced by them and follow them (so they are often in leadership positions). But strength alone is not the key to leadership. Without the warmth we may respect them, but we may not like nor trust them.

Strength is about competency. You all know those people that are super competent, and super confident. And you just feel safe, when you’ve got that strength, you can help people feel safe around you.

When you’re competent, when you can help them to get what they want, when you can show them that you are the person that can get them from A to B, you’re the person that can make them feel secure and safe and supported in your strength, you know, because you’re strong.

Strength is about competency. It’s about respect.

So often we command respect by being competent, by being confident, by being strong.

Strength is usually more testosterone-driven.

So more men tend to have this, but there are definitely women that have this down this end of the spectrum, but it’s more of a feminine rather than a male-female thing.

If you’ve got a lot of testosterone in that energy, then you’ll have that strength. We need to have that strength when we are influencing people.

Think about when you’re in a sale, you cannot just be warm, you cannot just be lovely and nice. And what do you think and what do you want, and we’ve got to actually have that strength, we’ve got to be strong, we’ve got to show people we can help you, I can help you.

We are reliable we, you know, you’ve got to draw their respect from people because and I know as an adult teacher, I had to always walk into the classroom and get respect from them rather than love and friendship from them.

I learned that from my teacher friends, I asked them, “How do I be a good teacher?” and they said, “Don’t try and be friends with the students”. Get their respect first. That’s the strength.

They need to respect you and know you have that strength first.

And then you add that flavor of warmth once you’ve got that.

So, you probably sit somewhere along that end of the spectrum.

If you’re more on the strength side, you’re probably quite direct, quite blunt, you probably use quite a big movement.

Someone who is very strong, they use big movements, they have very open space, they command attention, they command respect, they have a big presence. They are usually quite big in their gestures, and quite open.

So if you’re too much in your strength energy, and you’re wanting to be a little bit warmer, (because we need both), bring it in a little bit with your body language.

So maybe touch that person on the shoulder, maybe sit closer to them, actually pull them in closer to your proximity.

If you are really strong energy already, just to bring a little bit more warmth. And you might just match and mirror that person a little bit more. So that you’re getting more warmth because they’re feeling kind of getting that emotional feeling going.

If you are very direct already, and you want to be more of a warm person because you maybe feel that being too strong and too direct and blunt, and too in your masculine energy.  Like let’s just get the job done, the fastest way from A to B, let’s not worry about, you know, all the feel-good stuff.

If you don’t have any feel-good stuff, you’ve got zero, then people can feel like it’s all about the task. We want to check more into our warmth if we’re in that in that kind of mode.

Warmth

Warmth is the perception someone cares for us. They listen, understand us, even empathise with us.

We distrust people’s motives who lack warmth. They put us on our guard and we try to avoid them.

Warmth is empathy. Empathising with that person. And we do that by nodding, by agreeing with someone, by validating their emotions, by helping them feel really safe. It’s a really different kind of safety.

With strength, with that energy, you feel safe because it’s results-driven. You’re safe because I’m going to get the job done for you, you’re very confident.

The warmth is more about showing – you’re safe with me because you can open up, you can be vulnerable.

The warmth is very vulnerable. It’s our feminine, it’s our nurturer. It’s about making people feel really accepted and loved.

Warm people tend to be smaller with their gestures, their body language is usually softer and there’s more smiling.  It can be a little bit more tilted, so we go asymmetrical to be warmth, where strong energy is very symmetrical.

If you think about it when you say something and you’re certain, and you’re strong, you say it in symmetry, feet together, not one foot forward. Hands-on the hips, very strong.

The warmth is with open palms.

So if you’re wanting to bring out more warmth, then we do more open palms, plus a tilt of the head which is very vulnerable.

In terms of body language, with the strength, it’s usually big actions, very open, they’re not matching or mirroring, they’re being strong, and they command respect.

We respect those people, if there is enough warmth.

The warmth is the love. The strength is the respect.

We need both, we need both types of energy. If we’re too much on this end of the spectrum, people aren’t going to feel a connection to us, They’re not going to necessarily feel drawn to us and be compelled, they might not even like us.

They might respect us, but they probably really don’t like us.

And on this side, on the warmth side, we can really feel like someone’s really loving and warm, where you just feel the love and feel looked after.

But we probably wouldn’t trust them to help us buy a house or to help us manage our money or to help us solve our problems. Right?

In addition, when you’re in a sales conversation, for example, we need to go back and forth, kind of like the infinity symbol, we go into our strength, then we go into our warmth. And we need to adjust where we fit in on the spectrum.

It’s basically Yin and Yang.

Competency, empathy.

Respect, connection.

We need to balance and go back and forth.

We need to actually show the person that we’re influencing or that we’re working with, that we’re connecting with, that we are both –  that we can be both.

So when I’m in a sales conversation, the majority is warmth – questioning, building rapport, matching body language. The matching of body language is very much the warmth, it’s making the person feel very comfortable and very connected, very validated in their feelings.

And then when it gets to the results part of the sale, when I’m actually going to share with them how I can help them, I turn on my strength.

I say things like “Look, I know you’re sick and tired of xyz, let’s just get rid of that, let’s just move on, like, why don’t we get started?

I’ll go into that strong energy because if you stay in the warmth in that sales conversation and say things like “How do you feel. what would you like to do, you know, have a think about it” etc. and you go all passive it doesn’t work, it kills the sale.

Whereas if you start the sales conversation too strong and you’re really dictator-like and very direct and blunt, you’re also going kill the sale before it’s really even begun.

So, in a sales conversation where you want to influence someone. I recommend that you come in with your warmth, and then you, you dip and out of your strength – you say to someone “Look, I can absolutely help you with that” and you say it with certainty and conviction.

You go into this strong energy, you feel it – you’re tonality is strong it’s not questioning.

Whenever we’re communicating with people we’ve got to be thinking, what is needed more right now? Strength or warmth? Respect or connection? Competence, or compassion?

We’ve all got access those two compelling traits that you need to really effectively influence people. When you have both of these and a beautiful balance, which takes time and practice and skill, you can influence anyway.

You can use this on videos, you can use in your writing, you can use it in your workshops, you can use it in all of your communication and you will be incredibly influential and you’ll be perceived as an incredibly compelling and influential person.

And then I leave you with a quote that I love, which is, ” If you want to be liked, you need to like people”. And when you like people genuinely like people, you want to serve them, you want to help them you want to give them the best of you.

And the best of you is when you can get a really good balance between being really strong and being really warm.

If we get those two things right and balance, you will be absolutely unstoppable my friend.

So my question to you is, where do you sit on the spectrum? Are you naturally more in your strength or in your warmth?

And what can you do to move a little bit closer to the other side, or to just be in a little bit of more of a balance and a flow?

I hope it’s really helped knowing the two compelling traits that you need for influence.

Go and practice them this week, and let me know how you go.

 

 

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3 Don’ts When Starting Out In Business

 

In my previous blog post, I gave 3 Do’s when starting out in business.
 In this blog post, I give you 3 ‘Dont’s’.

 

(The video has 3 Do’s and 3 Don’ts. I’ve separated them on the blog post.
You can find the 3 Do’s here)

 

1. Don’t get stuck in the comparison cycle. 

 

Getting stuck in the comparison cycle can cause you to lose your belief in yourself.
What actually happens is that we often compare someone’s middle to our beginning.
 
When you’re starting out, and you see people that are further along in their journey with you – remember, you don’t know the heartache that they’ve been through.
 
You don’t know all the pain, all the times that they’ve failed.
 
For me, it was running seminars where only a few people showed up.
 
Or running webinars and having technology issues.
 
There has been so many doubts, fears or the tears.
 
I’ve been in business 16 years and it’s been a roller coaster of emotions.
 
Negative comparison is when you look at people that are further along than you with envy, jealousy or shame around where you’re at.
 
We just don’t have time for all that negative energy.
 
We’ve got businesses to build, we’ve got lives to change, including our own. We cannot waste time in comparison.
 
So, when you look at people further behind it in the journey, you don’t want to think “I’m better”.
 
And when you look at people further along you don’t want to think ”I’ve got so far to go how depressing”.
 
Only look at others to support them and to feel encouraged.
 
Look at people further along and think, “Wow, they can do it, I can do it!”
 
I’m so grateful that I’ve got people that I can glean from. People who have gone before me. We can stand on the shoulders of these giants, and learn so much from them.
 
So people that have figured it out along the way – see it as a blessing. You get to enjoy their success, you get to enjoy learning from them.
 
And don’t ever think that anyone is better than you.
 
No one is better than you. We’ve all got different gifts, different types of intelligence, different strengths. So don’t ever think of people in that way.
 
You have priceless value. You could never be paid what you’re worth. You’re worth so much more than you’re charging, I guarantee.
 
So, don’t get stuck in that comparison trap.
 
Okay, number two don’t. And This is a big one.
 
2. Don’t let people with different dreams, determine yours
 
Sometimes people will say things to you, and you can’t listen to it, because they don’t understand your dreams.
 
They don’t have the same dreams as you.
 
People might encourage you to go a different way.
 
You’ve got to trust your dreams, you’ve got to trust in yourself.
 
You have an instinct, you have intuition for your life that no one else has.
 
Yes, seek wise counsel – for SURE!
 
Seek advice, seek mentorship from people you respect.
 
But remember, no one knows you as well as you do.
 
Don’t let people with different kinds of dreams determine yours, especially people who haven’t done what you want to do.
 
If you want to get abs, and someone who has a potbelly is telling you what to eat, or how to exercise, it’s probably not a good idea to listen to them. Right?
 
You wouldn’t listen to someone who’s never had a six-pack before, give you advice on how to get a six-pack.
 
So, why would you listen to someone give you business advice, unless they have a successful business?
 
I’m all for receiving feedback. Feedback is a gift. I love getting feedback.
 
But I like getting qualified feedback.
 
And I only like getting feedback from people I respect.
 
So, if someone gives me feedback, and they don’t understand the dreams that I have, to me, it’s a waste of energy.
 
It can plant seeds of doubt and fear in your mind. And we don’t have time for that. We’ve got things to get on with – we’ve got things to create things to build.
 
So don’t let comments or disagreements online or little things that people say to you affect you.
 
Don’t people speak into your life unless you respect them – and they are successful, according to your definition of success. Then they deserve you to consider their opinion.
 
 
3. Don’t feel guilty about investing in your business
 
Feeling guilty about investing could come in the form of time, energy, or money.
All of these things are necessary to invest in business, especially when you’re just starting out.
 
When I started off, I had to spend SO much time in my business.
 
I was in my mid-20s and I had to just not have much of a social life for a while. Because I was building, and when you’re in the building stage, you just can’t afford to be going out and partying all the time.
 
To build your business, it does take time initially.
 
Once you get through that initial foundation stage and you set up systems, you can pull back a bit.
 
It’s like you go through a wilderness, and it’s tough, but you come out to the promised land. And it’s amazing. But you’ve got to work for that.
 
You don’t get that just by putting in a few hours here and there – that is not enough.
 
There’s no such thing as a get rich quick scheme that lasts.
 
If this is your dream, you have to invest in it.
 
If you want the freedom and perks that come with having your own business, if you want to be your own boss, you need to be prepared to put time, money and energy into it. It’s a given.
 
One of my favorite things about being my own boss is that my boss lets me sleep in. She doesn’t make me force myself up with an alarm.
 
And most of the time, I’m doing things that I find really rewarding. I’ve learned and invested consistently and I’m reaping the rewards.
 
But it took a lot of time and work to get here.
 
Now I can go on a lot of holidays and enjoy myself and have time away from my laptop.
 
I invested over 100,000 dollars and thousands of hours investing into my business.
 
People who don’t understand that will think it’s weird.
 
A lot of people don’t get it. They don’t get that you don’t clock off at 5pm.
 
If you’re a parent, you might not get to watch every single one of your child’s soccer games. Or pick them up from school every single day.
 
Sometimes it’s the nature of business.
 
And it’s your choice. There should be no guilt around that.
 
There should be no guilt around you investing in a workshop or course that’s going to grow your business.
 
If having a business is your dream, there is a price to pay.
 
It’s not about being a workaholic. I’ve been called it before. I’m not a workaholic. I love my job. I’m on purpose. I’m in my calling.
 
So why would I not invest in it?
 
When you value something, you invest in it.
 
So don’t feel guilty for doing that. It’s a requirement of business.
 
And when you’re starting out, usually you don’t have as much money. So you have to invest time.
 
If you’ve got some capital behind you, if you’ve got some savings, then you can invest that to save time.
 
But you’ve either got to put in time or money, usually both.
 
We don’t have the heartbeats to waste on it.
 
It doesn’t have a lot of benefits.
 
So here’s a recap of the three don’ts when starting out in business.
 
1. Don’t get trapped in the comparison cycle.
 
2. Don’t let people with different dreams, determine yours.
3. Don’t feel guilty for investing in your business.
 
If having a business is your dream, remember that it does take time, effort, money, and energy.
 
But if you know in your heart-of-hearts that this is what you want – it’s worth it.
 
I’d love to hear which one was your favourite – pop it in the comment section below.
 
It’s good to not feel alone in business.
 
If there’s anything else I can do for you, please do reach out businesses too hard to do alone. So please don’t suffer in silence. Reach out and ask for help.
 
I would love to support you. 
Go for your dreams,
Kat

 

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3 Do’s When Starting Out In Business

 

In this video and blog post, I share with you three do’s when you are starting out in business.
 
These are three of the most important things to do when starting out as an entrepreneur.
And no matter where you’re at in the entrepreneurial journey, these are great fundamental reminders.

 

(The video has 3 Do’s and 3 Don’ts. I’ve separated them on the blog post.
You can find the 3 Don’ts here)

 

Here are the 3 Do’s:

 

1. Do be visible, and share your journey

 

Being visible is important. A lot of people want to hide away until they get everything perfect. And THEN put themselves out there in the public eye.
 
So what I’m encouraging you to do is share the journey with people while you’re in transition, while you progress.
 
Tell people what you’re up to.
 
So, for example, you say “Hey, friends, this is what I’m doing, Who wants to join me?”
 
Basically, what you’re saying to your tribe is…
 
Join me as I make epic fails… as I take lots of imperfect action… as I give it a crack… as I learn and as I grow.
 Join me as I have some failures, and some successes.
Who wants to come on the journey with me?
 
A lot of people are scared to say that.
But I’ve found that it is powerful when you say to people, honestly, “Hey, I’m starting out, come with me on the journey, come and share the highs and lows with me”…
 
…instead of hiding away for a year.
 
And then trying to make out like you’re really big overnight.
 
This is really common because none of us want to start small.
 
We can’t fear small beginnings.
 
We often want to start out and say I’ve been in business this many years, or I’ve got this many clients, or I’ve done this many speaking gigs.
 
I recommend that you’ve been visible straightaway.
 
Don’t wait until you have loads of clients to start posting testimonials.
 
Don’t wait until you’ve got it all sorted.
 
Don’t wait until you’ve got a beautiful website and a perfect logo.
 
Don’t wait for that.
 
Get out there and start sharing your message.
 
Because you actually DO know enough about your topic.
 
You know enough about what you’re going to be helping people with. You have a lot to share with someone right now.
 
You can get out your phone right now and share some of your wisdom, some of your knowledge – NOW!
 
People love it when you get vulnerable, when you’re real.
 
So don’t wait until everything’s all perfect.
Be visible and share your journey.

 

2. Do spend lots of time with other entrepreneurs

 
There’s an entrepreneurial mentality. And then there’s a 9-5 mentality. There is some crossover, but they are two different mentalities.
 
If you spend too much time with people who don’t understand the entrepreneurial world, you can start to doubt yourself.
 
I know because this happened to me.
 
And it’s happened to a lot of my friends.
 
I was speaking to a client on the phone today. And she told me that she’s done some market research on her friends. And they feel that actually, there’s a bit too much out there that she’s doing.
 
So she’s starting to want to pull back and want to go on visible again and not put herself out there.
 
What I recommended to her is, yes – we’ve got to listen to people. But we’ve also got to remember that people who haven’t started their own business have a different mentality.
 
If you want to be a successful entrepreneur and make your dreams happen. If you want a sustainable business, and not just ‘dip your toe in the water’… if you want to void going back to your 9-5 job…
 
…if you want to be in this for the long term, you’ve got to have an entrepreneurial mindset.
 
It doesn’t come from merely reading. I love books, I listen to books every day.
 
But you’ve also got to spend time with people who have the mindset you want because it starts to rub off.
 
If you don’t have a group of entrepreneurs that you spend time with, you need this.
 
I don’t mean just having coffee. I mean people who can grow you, support you, encourage you, and celebrate your wins with you.
 
People who you can bounce ideas off.
 
And also be honest with you.
 
Iron sharpens iron. When you have the right people around you, you sharpen each other.
 
You both bring your strengths and weaknesses, and you help each other grow.
 
You do masterminds and brainstorming sessions with each other.
 
You need people who contribute ideas to each other, a group where you share your wins and your failures… we all need that.
 
Business can be quite lonely, doing it on your own. And it’s something that I wish that I had grasped earlier.
 
When I started off, I spent so much time on my own. And then when I did catch up with my friends on the weekend, a lot of them were nine to fivers.
 
And they would always say to me things like “You’re always working”.
 
And they wanted to go out at 6pm.
 
For me, my workday doesn’t finish at 6pm. It finishes when the work is done.
 
It’s a completely different mentality.
 
So we need to spend time with other entrepreneurs.
 
If you don’t have them in your friendship groups, you can find them through meetup groups, Facebook groups or networking.
 
There are lots of options out there for you.

3. Make the commitment to keep going, no matter what

 
If we want to make it in business, we need to commit to keep going, no matter how hard it gets, no matter how we feel.
We can’t rely on how we feel if we want to last in business. Because our feelings are up and down.
 
You’re not always going to feel like jumping on and doing a Facebook Live…
 
Writing a blog…
 
Emailing people…
 
Running a webinar…
 
Following up sales calls…
 
But you just need to make that decision that no matter what, I’m taking action. It’s not about my feelings. Especially if you’re an emotional person.
 
You can’t let your feelings dictate your day. Your emotions are signals. They’re not be all and end all.
 
You’ve got to make a commitment and show up because it is actually the higher part of you who wants it.
 
The part of your brain responsible for executive functioning, the prefrontal cortex, makes the decisions for your future.
 
It’s responsible for the reasoning, the planning, the visioning. That’s not made by your emotions, it’s actually made by a very smart part of your brain.
 
Your feelings often come from your hindbrain, which just wants you to be warm and safe and comfortable.
 
So of course, that part of your brain is going to think “It’s easier to stay home today”
 
It thinks “I don’t want to go to that networking event or it’s cold”
 
or “I don’t want to go to that seminar today”
 
or “I’d rather watch Netflix than an educational webinar”
 
We’ve always got that temptation.
 
But if you’ve got the commitment, which actually comes from your why, it will keep you going.
 
The only reason I work so hard in business is that I have such a big ‘why’. I’ve got such a big vision to build a very big and impactful business.
 
To make a big difference in a lot of people’s lives, to reach a lot of people, to train and support and help a lot of people.
 
It’s all about what I want to do for people, and the lifestyle that I want to live as well.
 
And that’s what makes you committed.
 
So no matter what, I know that I won’t give up on my business.
 
I’ll do it till I die as long as I’ve got a passion for it.
 
The passion comes because it feels like it’s part of my purpose and my calling. It’s bigger than me.
 
You are going to have highs and lows, doubts and fears, you’re going to have the temptation to go back and look for a job. That’s normal. It’s all part of the journey.
 
So you need to spend that time with other entrepreneurs to get through those tough times.
 
And make sure that you have a ‘why’ that’s bigger than you commit to it, no matter how you feel.
 
So here’s a recap of the three don’ts when starting out in business:

1. Do be visible, and share your journey

2. Do spend lots of time with other entrepreneurs

3. Make the commitment to keep going, no matter what

So as to not overwhelm you, I have put the 3 Don’ts in a separate blog post here.

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3 Free Ways To Increase Your Number Of Facebook Followers

A lot of people ask “How do I get more followers?”

Or “How do I get likes if I’m just starting out?”

So in this video and blog post, I share with you three ways to increase your number of Facebook followers that are completely free!

 

First of all, why is it important to increase your following if you’re a business owner?

Firstly, it increases your credibility and improves your positioning.

So if you’ve got less than 100 likes or followers on your Facebook business page, it kind of looks like you haven’t been in business for a while. It can look a little bit amateur.

Which is fine to begin with, because we’ve all got start from somewhere, but we want to speed the process up and get more followers as quickly as we can.

It’s going to raise your positioning, your credibility, and make you appear more of the authority in your niche.

Now, remember…

The number of followers you have doesn’t equal your worth.

It doesn’t show how good you are at what you do.

It doesn’t show how much you help people.

Just because someone has 10,000 followers, it doesn’t mean they’re better than you.

It doesn’t show how genius they are.

It doesn’t mean they’re smarter, it doesn’t mean they’re cooler, or prettier or anything like that.

It just means they have probably made it a priority to get followers.

The number of followers also doesn’t equate to income.

Having loads of followers also does not equal having loads of paying clients.

However, when you have more followers, you’ve got more opportunity to have more engagement on your page and on your group.

When you have more followers, you have more opportunity to tell people about you and what you do, so it’s a good thing to have.

Because if you’re only reaching 50 people, then there might be only a small percentage of those that are your absolute ideal client.

Whereas if you’ve got more followers, you’re more likely to have people within that group who are going to be your ideal client and may end up being a paid client.

 

So here are 3 ways to increase your followers without spending a cent:

1. Engage in Facebook groups

Now when it comes to groups, because it’s an organic strategy, it takes time. We want to think of it as a long term strategy.

It’s not something that you want to rush.

If you’ve got something coming up fast, don’t be posting it in all the Facebook groups in a hurry if you haven’t already provided some value there.

You want to take your time with Facebook groups, is all about building relationships.

Those people that post in loads of Facebook groups, and they just leave and they don’t engage or comment, they don’t add value,  they can get blocked or kicked out.

Posting in groups can waste a lot of time if you’re not careful

So what I recommend with groups is that you put in the search bar and Facebook something that will contain a gr, so for example, I might put women in business, if I want to attract women in business or Sydney Mums, and you just see the groups that come up.

Now you want to be looking for active groups, people that have very recently posts and people that are engaging and commenting and not just posting your marketing posts.

So you want to make sure that you find groups that are all about serving and giving and helping each other in any community.

I suggest you have a play for a while.

And then I would actually pick your top three favorite ones, the ones that you really liked hanging out.

And I personally don’t suggest choosing the really massive ones for this, because there are so many people on there, you can just kind of get lost in a sea.

But the really small ones, they can be ineffective as well.

So I like to kind of go to the middle, the medium-sized ones.

Instead of trawling through loads and loads of posts, which can just take you all day (and we ain’t got time for that, right?!) what I suggest you do is put in the search within the group, a key topic.

So for example, if you’re a parenting coach and you’re in a Mum’s group, and you really specialise with having a baby get to sleep, for example, you might just put ‘baby’ or ‘sleep’ or whatever your topic is.

If you’re business coach, you might specialise in, for example, social media strategies, you might put Facebook ads, or whatever it is your main thing.

And then you just come up with the parts of the group that are just about that, and then go through the recent ones and just go in to be helpful.

If you went into groups every single day and answered, let’s say, five questions, or made five comments, and you did that every day, then at the end of the week, you might have 25 or 30 questions or comments that you’ve made.

And people will check you out. They will click on your profile, and they will they’ll have a look at what you’re up to.

So don’t just go in there pushing your stuff, go in there to give and engage.

2. Cross-promote

 

To cross-promote, you basically share in different places your other platforms.

For example, put on Instagram an invitation to like your Facebook.

On Facebook, you can put the invitation that says something like “Have you checked out my Instagram? Here is my handle. What’s yours?”

Or if you have your own Facebook group, you might say

“Hey, guys, let’s all share our Instagram pages.”

So be thinking – how can I promote my Instagram to my Facebook and my Facebook to my Instagram.

Also, if you send out a weekly email, sharing your latest blog or your latest video, then you can put in the “P.S” section or somewhere in your post, something like this:

“Hey, have you joined our Facebook group yet? It’s a community of like-minded entrepreneurs that are passionate about making a difference. Jump over here to join us”

Then post the link and an image.

Another thing I did recently to cross-promote was to post up an image in my Facebook group and said “Do you want weekly client attraction strategies sent directly to your inbox? Click the link”

So that’s another example of cross promoting – asking people in your Facebook group if they want to jump over and get email strategies.


3. Create a freebie

 

A freebie is a lead magnet that you can put everywhere through all of your social media through your email on your website. And you basically just create a downloadable that is like a guide, or a checklist or a cheat sheet or something that people will be able to easily download.

You want to make it really easily consumable.

So maybe five pages at the most.

Not an ebook, not a big long training, a one-hour video, nothing like that, just something short. Ideally it should take 10 minutes or less to consume it.

And it’s easy to create, because if you download it from your genius zone in your brain directly to your ideal client, then it won’t take you long.

I put this off for years… And when I actually did it, it only took me one afternoon.

Then I posted it everywhere.

I create all my landing pages on ClickFunnels. I recommend getting a high-converting system like Clickfunnels as soon as you can, as the results are usually 4 to 8 times better.

If you don’t want to invest much at the moment, you could use Thrive Pages or Leadpages, and to be honest there are plenty of other landing page builders available, I just personally find ClickFunnels to be the best.

Their pages have high conversion rates and are used by most of the successful companies.

Plus I can share my funnels with you so you don’t have to start from scratch, which can save you loads of time.

If you want these, you can get a 14-day trial by clicking here

Once you register for your free trial, just email me to let me know – and I’ll hook you up with my highest-converting funnels.

Once you’ve created your freebie, post it out everywhere.

This is a great way to grow your list.

Remember that all free strategies take time. So you don’t want to just rush it, you want to make sure that you take the time and you treat people like people and not like numbers.

You don’t want a whole lot of followers that actually are interested in what you’re doing.

They’re just liking you to like you, you want to make sure that you view people as potential clients or people that you can just continue to add value to support them.

I’ve got people that have followed me for years and years and might not ever be a client. And that’s totally cool.

You’ve got to be okay with that we’re in the value age now.

People who are scared to kind of give their best stuff you’re going to lose out.

So just know that the more you give, the more people will realise that you’re a generous person and that you’ve got a lot of knowledge and you’ll actually want to do business with you.

So don’t be afraid to give some of your best stuff away and have an abundant mindset. Just know that’s going to come back to you.

 

I’ve created a freebie called “How To Create A Winning Freebie”.

It’s all about how to create a great lead magnet and what to include to going to make it work.

I created a freebie and got 61 new leads through in the first week. It’s a really effective strategy to attract new clients.

So if you want that, go here to get the cheatsheet.


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