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August 18, 2022 by katmillar Leave a Comment

How I overcame my biggest fear around presenting

Would you love to be the type of person who confidently and consistently shares your knowledge with groups?

But you find yourself procrastinating on recording live videos or running online events?

We all have a next level of presenting.

Maybe you’ve been doing pre-recorded videos and your next level of presenting is to do live videos.

Maybe you’ve been doing 60 or 90-minute Masterclasses and your next level of presenting is to run a ½-day or full-day event.

If we’re not taking that next step towards our next level, or we’re not presenting consistently there’s usually only ONE reason WHY.

  • Not “I’m too busy”
  • Not “I don’t like speaking on camera”
  • Not “I’m bad at technology”.
  • The one reason is usually fear.

The next step outside our comfort zone usually has a fear attached to it.

A lot of people I talk to are avoiding their next level of presenting because of fear.

I get it because I had so much fear around presenting.

Fear can be really crippling.

And the problem with fear is that we often think that it’s keeping us safe, when it’s actually just keeping us small and limited. 

If you want to become a more effective presenter, it’s so important to overcome any fears you have around showing up fully and authentically.

Otherwise, the fears can be like a ball and chain that will hold you back.

Which is why I want to help you understand the fears that are in the way of your next level and give you some practical strategies and mindset strategies to overcome them.

So, you can…
 
 1. Show up online more powerfully, more consistently, and more authentically

2. Build a deeper connection with your community

3. Get more engagement, and ultimately, more ideal clients

If you want to accelerate your business growth, the trust people have in you, and how fast you get clients, you need to discover any fear that’s stopping you taking action.

In this video, ‘How I Overcame My Biggest Fear Around Presenting’ I’m sharing 3 main ways I’ve found to overcome the fear so that you can show up and shine online…

You can check out the video here…

Over the years I’ve discovered that there are 4 main fears that people have when it comes to presenting confidently. 

  1. A fear of failure – getting it wrong, looking silly, like incompetent
  2. A fear of rejection – that people won’t like what we say
  3. A fear of loss of security – feeling unsafe, uncertain, insecure
  4. A fear of criticism – The fear of what people think of us, a fear of judgment, which can stop us from sharing authentically what’s on our hearts.

Most of us have at least one of those fears. And all these fears can be total dream-killers!

These fears stop us from stepping up as the leader and the influencer we were born to be.

In 2011, I was working in London and I attended a really big convention in Birmingham with a friend and I had one of those lightbulb moments when I was listening to the speakers. 

I realised that if I wanted to reach more people, I had to get over my fear of speaking to groups and learn the skills of presenting.

I remember afterwards sitting in a hotel lobby drinking wine by a fireplace with my friend and talking about the speakers and I said to him – I’m sick of just working with people one-on-one. I want to be a speaker.

It was a turning point where dream and reality collided.

It was such a magical feeling of passion and excitement and energy!

Since that time, I’ve been totally committed to learning and upskilling in the area of presenting.

It wasn’t until I learned how to do it that I started growing my audience and growing my income.

I’ve found that presenting is the best way to get clients. 

For most of my life, I didn’t like being seen. I didn’t like attention.

I went bright red whenever it was my turn to speak, even in a small group of friends.

Now one of the things that I’m MOST passionate about, is getting in front of a group of people and sharing tools, strategies, and inspiration that can help people.

I’ve completely overcome my fear and although I still get nervous, it now no longer stops me.

My mission is to help women overcome the fears holding them back, and gain the confidence to consistently present their message to the world.

Here are the 3 main ways I’ve found to overcome the fear, so that you can show up and shine online…

1. Focus on the person who needs you

Rather than feeling like you’re talking to the masses, think of it as talking to one person, one human being who needs your help, and that really helps us overcome the fear of rejection.

If you’re feeling fear around your next level of presenting, it’s really good to focus on the person who needs you.

Think about the confusion they have, and how you used to be confused about the same things.

Think about how you used to be overwhelmed, disappointed, or frustrated about the things that you now have answers for.

Going back to that time when you were in their shoes before you found the answers, really wakes up a desire to speak up.

The world’s hurting right now and you have keys that can help people to improve the quality of their life.

Often we try to avoid our next level, because we think it’s going to give us less of what we want.

For example, our brain might be saying something like – “If you show up on a Facebook Live you might get rejected. If you show up on a Facebook Live and stuff up your words, you’re going to feel like a failure. You won’t feel secure. If you show up, you might get criticised.

There are so many things that your brain can come up with to stop you from taking action so you try to avoid these things.

Sometimes we think that the action means we’re going to get less of what we want but we actually end up getting more – because ultimately, what these four fears sit under is a loss of love, acceptance or belonging, and a loss of true human connection.

That’s what you and I are craving. We’re craving human connection.

Often, we avoid our next level because we think it’s going to lead to rejection or criticism, which will give us less connection with people.

The sad thing is, it costs us. It ends up giving us LESS of what we want – true human connection.

When you really connect deeply with your ideal client and what they’re struggling with, it does something so powerful in your brain.

However, the fear of not showing up because you’re so scared of what people think – whether they are going to judge you, can stop you from reaching this person that’s struggling.

This is the person that you have the answers for!

Something practical you can do to connect with them in your imagination is to write them a letter or journal as though you are them.

This can really help you feel connected with them as a human being that you can help, rather than thinking of speaking to the masses.

2. Take courageous action consistently

The fear is a result of our beliefs.

We only have chronic fear because of something we keep choosing to believe.

They’re just thoughts in our minds. They’re stories we tell ourselves.

The reason most people have these fears is because they think it doesn’t matter if they keep believing them.

They don’t think of the consequence of keeping believing them.

Just because it pops in your head doesn’t mean it’s truth. These aren’t facts.

Don’t allow your mind to run wild.

You can’t keep believing these thoughts and expect your results to change.

If you’re saying anything to yourself that’s stopping you from taking brave action, you need to stop saying that.

You need to speak the truth.

And you need to prove to your brain that action is safe.

This requires taking action despite feeling fear. We can’t wait for the fear to go away, it doesn’t. We have to act while we still feel it. We only succeed when we’re willing to fail.

Confidence is attached to progress, and we only progress if we practice. Publically. We don’t overcome fears sitting in our bedroom.

This freaked me out, a lot. But I realised it was the only way. I was trying to go around the mountain, under the mountain, away from the mountain – when I knew that eventually it was inevitable that I needed to climb the mountain.

If you don’t feel you’re progressing, you’ll start to lose your confidence and you’ll stay stuck in fear.

When we don’t take consistent, courageous action, we get stuck in over-thinking. Suffering from the elusive ‘perfectionism’ (that doesn’t exist).

We internalise all the worries and potential setbacks and over-think everything, instead of just acting.

If we want to grow, we can’t wait for our feelings to change. Our feelings will always try to protect us and keep us safe.

If you don’t start doing the things you don’t feel like doing, you could wake up one year from today and be in exactly the same place.

Most of us started our businesses to make more money, make a bigger impact, and have greater freedom.

But if we’re not showing up and presenting consistently online, it’s really hard to get these things.

One of the ways I overcome my biggest fear around presenting was taking action despite the fear.

I kept putting myself out there, even though it was uncomfortable.

* I recorded live videos, even though I found it uncomfortable

* I ran events, even though I didn’t know what I was doing

* I surrounded myself with encouraging cheerleaders (a.k.a great coaches and mentors).

* I continuously put my hand up at events until I got more comfortable with the spotlight

* I applied to speak at venues that scared me (like the International Convention Centre)

* I went to lots of networking events on my own

I’ve now spoken in front of hundreds of groups and no longer have a fear of public speaking. I still feel nerves, but I reframe them as growth and energy and do it anyway.

I’m so grateful to have awesome people around me who are powerful, strong, and who aren’t afraid of their presence, personality, and ideas taking up big space in the world.

I’m so grateful for my coaches and mentors who have modelled courage, who have felt the fear and done it anyway….

The people who have continuously fought against fear in order to bring their knowledge, experience, creativity, and ideas to the world.

Taking your place in the world feels good. Speaking up feels good. All it requires is choosing to take the next brave action on your path.

Something practical you can do is write down what is a courageous action you’ve been putting off and set a date to do it. Then put it into your calendar.

3. Follow a Formula

Focusing on the people you’re here to help and taking courageous consistent action can get you over the line to stepping up to your next level.

So you decide to go live, to do the event, but then there’s another story coming up.

And it says something like…

“I don’t know what to say,” or “I don’t know how to make it come across in the way I mean.”

“What if no one likes it? Or What if I struggle to come across as credible?”

“What structure do I use?”

“What needs to be in the presentation in order to get engagement?”

Maybe you don’t know what call to action to share.

Maybe you don’t have a clear offer.

Maybe you’re not sure how to make your presentation emotional and awaken a desire within people that inspires them to take action.

And if you don’t have the right tools, skills, and support to overcome them, the stories and fears will run your business.

How often have you thought about running an event, but you haven’t?

How often did you think about doing a FB live video, but you didn’t?

That’s because it’s hard to work on these fears without having structures, tools, templates – a proven formula

You overcome fear with a formula.

The fears are not just about ‘just doing it’ because you also need the skills and the tools – you need the roadmap.

When you have the roadmap – the formula for how to do it, all the fears start to vanish because you know what to do.

The fears don’t go away on their own. If you don’t know how to present, the fears will keep your business stuck, and small.

When I was stuck in fear of failure, it was just because I didn’t know how.

I was trying to attempt something that I didn’t know how to do well. SMILE

Following a formula means you overcome the fear in a very practical way, without having to do years of therapy and mindset work.

If you want to accelerate your business, you need someone outside of you to help you through it.

Without my mentors, I never would have been able to overcome the crippling fear I had of what people think.

I had a lot of coaching sessions to be able to do what I do.

I have a lot more coaching sessions to do to go to my next level and I’m always going to have a mentor.

Whatever you want to do next, it’s unlikely you’re going to go to your next level on your own.

Some of you are trying to do it all on their own and it’s almost impossible.

One of the fastest ways to overcome fear is with a formula. 

For me, it was learning the skills and getting the tools – like templates and a structure – that helped me step up, despite the fear.

It’s not about getting rid of the fear so you never feel it.

It’s about getting to the point where you can take action consistently DESPITE having the fear.

A clear, step-by-step how-to.

A formula stops fear from stopping you.

You overcome fear with a formula.

The most important thing I did that overcame my biggest fear around presenting, was I invested in learning presenting skills (and realised it was so much easier and more once I had the how all laid out step by step).

If you recognise that there’s a next level for you and you also recognise you need the HOW…

And if you’d like to learn how to create a presentation that inspires people and gets you clients, I’d like to invite you to my upcoming FREE live workshop “How to Get Clients with Online Workshops” on Tuesday, August 23 at 7 pm AEST.

How to get clients with online events

I’m sharing:

  • How To Create An Engaging Workshop Presentation
  • How To Deliver A World-Class Workshop
  • How To Market Your Workshop So The Right People Come

You’ll learn how to: 

  • Use FREE events to reach your financial goals
  • Grow your business by helping more people using my proven formula
  • Build trust and connection fast, even if you struggle with nerves
  • Create engaging and profitable presentations
  • Position yourself as an expert
  • Consistently sell out your programs

Register for How to Get Clients with Online Workshops

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Business growth, businesswomen, coaches, Confidence, Entrepreneurs, live events, online events, presenting

December 10, 2021 by katmillar Leave a Comment

How To Attract More Clients Using Facebook Live Videos


Want to know the fastest way to build more trust, offer more value, and attract more leads online?

Going live on video is one of the best ways to grow your audience, connect with your community, and powerfully position yourself as an expert.

If you’re like most people that I speak to, you might find going live on a video pretty scary.

When I first got introduced to the idea of Facebook Live videos, I was terrified.

But I realised I needed to get over that because Facebook Live videos are so effective. They build trust and rapport a lot faster than written posts.

Research also shows that people who use videos in their marketing on average get a 27% higher click-through rate and 34% higher conversion than those who don’t.

Videos can open a lot of doors of opportunity for you.

A lot of people find that when they consistently go live on video, they are much more likely to get asked to speak in other people’s Facebook groups, speak in online summits, and be seen as an authority on your topic.

In this video, I share…

  • A simple, yet powerful 5-step process that you can use to show up more confidently in your Facebook live videos
  • How to guarantee your Facebook Live videos get more engagement
  • How to build more trust and rapport with your audience
  • How to use live videos to have people regularly reaching out to you, so you never again how to worry where your clients are coming from



Here are some highlights from the video…

1. ATTENTION

We all have an internal subconscious ‘gate-keeper’ that helps us decide which videos to watch…and which ones to scroll past.

A Harvard study showed that over 90% of our decisions are made subconsciously.

So with our videos, if we don’t speak directly to the subconscious mind, it rarely gets attention.  To get someone’s attention, we need to understand the values of our ideal clients.


2. WHY

To maintain attention, it’s important to talk about ‘why’ the topic is important before you go into teaching anything.

People switch off if they don’t realise the importance of what you’re sharing.


3. CREDIBILITY

This is where you want to share why you’re qualified to speak on the topic.

Before you teach anyone anything, I recommend you always pre-frame it by sharing why they can trust you and why you’re the person to listen to.


4. TEACH

When you teach, you want to make sure you have organised your knowledge clearly, so you don’t waffle on.

When you’re thinking about what content to teach – think of the coolest possible things you’ve learned about the topic.


5. CALL TO ACTION

The whole purpose of your video is for the people watching it to take a new action. 

So make sure you always have a call to action at the end of your live videos.

The action could be a new behaviour, join your course, jump on a discovery call with you, come to your event – whatever the next best step is.

So that’s the 5-step formula for attracting clients using live video.

Hope this is helpful.

This is one small piece out of my entire client attraction formula. It’s one piece of what I call the client attraction bridge. 

It’s one thing to do a video, it’s another thing to be able to convert that video to leads and to paying clients, which is a whole different skill. 

So if you haven’t had your client attraction strategy session with me, I’d like to invite you into one of these free sessions.

If you’d like to have a personalised marketing strategy send me a DM on Facebook and we’ll chat over Messenger to make sure it’s a great fit for you.

Literally thousands of people have been through one of these strategy sessions, and realised they were wasting an incredible amount of time. After the session, they shifted what they’re doing and moved forward rapidly.

By applying the strategy of an expert, rather than trying to piece together everything by themselves, they were able to double, triple, and in some cases 5x their results in half the time.

If it is, I’ll give you all the details to get you started. It will be a very exclusive small group so that everyone gets personal coaching with me about how to use your content to attract the right clients.

In the strategy, I’ll be able to identify and show you the exact reason you’re not attracting more clients consistently, and exactly what to change to be able to attract clients 3-5x faster.

So if you haven’t had your strategy session with me yet, send me a DM on Facebook now.

Until next time…

Keep shining, keep sharing. The world is waiting for your words.

Kat

P.S. Whenever you’re ready… here are 3 other ways I can help you grow your coaching business:

1. Grab a free copy of my ‘Client Attraction Checklist‘

It’s a powerful roadmap to attracting leads, signing clients, and scaling your coaching business. — Grab It Here

2. Join the community and connect with Coaches who are also growing their business

It’s our Facebook community where ambitious Coaches learn to get more income, influence, and impact. — Join Us Here

3. Work with me privately

If you’d like to work directly with me … just send me a Facebook Message with the word “Private”… tell me a little about your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you all the details! — Message Here



Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Amplify Your Influence, Business, Business coach, Business growth, business strategy, Coach, Coaching, Entrepreneur, Entrepreneurship, Kat Millar, marketing

November 4, 2021 by katmillar Leave a Comment

3 Sneaky Content Mistakes That Could Be Tripping You Up


Ever feel like you hit the content jackpot with a killer post so you share it, and it only get a few likes from your old faithfuls (aka, your best friends)?

Yeah, that sux. 

Content is a powerful tool that can spark emotion. It can build connection. It can inspire new ways of thinking and invite action. Content creation is an important part of a trust-building marketing strategy.

So why is it so hard to get your content to consistently engage people?

It usually comes down to some sneaky content mistakes that a lot of people don’t realise they’re making. ⠀

And it’s really hurting their brand. In a lot of ways, it’s having the opposite effect they want and actually putting people off.  

If you don’t have an effective content strategy and you’re posting randomly, it can actually add to people’s overwhelm and confusion.

We want to speak directly to our dream, soul-connected clients and elegantly communicate our value to them.

There are people out there haaaaanging for the help you provide, but without a great content strategy, most of them currently can’t find you.

People, with problems you can solve, are wading through Facebook right now… and if you’re not jumping out to them with your content, it’s probably because your words aren’t crafted to be as compelling as they could be.

It’s not because you’re not awesome, it’s because your content isn’t grabbing and keeping their attention. 

Your word choice has the ability to produce a flick of the finger or a pause and consume.

Tiny tweaks make big leaps.


If you want to attract new clients fast, learning how to create compelling content is a priority. If you’re using online events as a lead generation strategy, which is what I recommend for most coaches and experts, it’s really hard to get people to those events without compelling content that invites them to it.

Compelling content strategically grows your audience, it attracts your ideal clients and inspires the right people to buy from you and you can do it in a way that FEELS good to you.

So here are the 3 biggest mistakes that could be tripping you up.


1. You don’t have a well-thought-out content strategy

A lot of people are fumbling around in the dark, posting all sorts of things on social media without a content strategy. And it’s really hurting their brand and in a lot of ways, putting people off.

If you don’t have a strategy, it can actually add to people’s overwhelm and confusion. It can be a disservice to your followers. When you have a strategy, it’s like having a map that shows you the journey that people go on.

Here is an example. 

Carl likes to go for a walk around his block every day. He does the exact same journey – turns left out of his block, then right until the next street, then left, etc. He remains safe and within close distance to his home.

Sally, on the other hand, is spontaneous. Sally loves stepping out of her house with no plan, no direction, and just follows her nose. She loves finding new places and often gets lost but, she loves the thrill of it.  

Neither of these are right or wrong. 

So, are you more of a Cautious Carl or Spontaneous Sally?

If you’re like Cautious Carl in your content, you’re probably staying safe and predictable. You probably aren’t ever rocking the boat. You’re probably not trying new things and are sticking to just one type of content… it could be becoming a bit boring and you’re probably blending in. 

If you are a Carl type, the more you continuously walk around the block, the more you can become blind to the things around you. The walk can become monotonous and you’re no longer as bright-eyed and alert. Instead, it can become boring and repetitive.

If you’re a Sally type you may lack some structure. You want to discover new places but without any sense of direction, you might not reach your desired destination. 

If you’re like Spontaneous Sally in your content, you’re probably trying different types of content and sharing lots of different topics. You might be using the latest trends eg. TikTok, reels, Clubhouse, or Instagram Stories.

You probably post when you’re inspired but have gaps in content consistency. You might be fun to watch but your audience can’t fully rely on you to deliver consistent and reliable value.

You don’t want your content marketing strategy to become monotonous (like Carl) and, if you have no strategy in place like Sally, you’ll probably be overwhelmed and frustrated without direction. 

But what if Carl and Sally each used a map? A map allows you to see where you are, where you want to go, and the best way to get there.

A map allows you to see where you are, where you want to go, and the best way to get there.


And, that’s why you need a solid content strategy.


2. You’re Not Creating Enough Curiosity

I say this all the time because a lot of people miss it, and it will never stop being true…

The main job of your marketing content is to create curiosity. If you’re not creating a feeling of curiosity for your reader or viewer, they will scroll away.

Giving away valuable content for free is the name of the game, but you can’t “give away the farm” and leave nothing to be desired.

So what do we do instead? We need to give value, AND open a void – a door that shows them what else they need to know.

I call it the ‘Void-Value Dance’. 

This is where you highlight a void – you tell them all about a problem they have, showing them that you understand that problem completely and intimately – because you used to have the same problem. Then you give them value to solve it. 

But there’s a second important step. You then open up a NEW void. 

Give value, open a void –-> Give value, open a void –-> Give value, open a void

It’s like opening a new door to a new problem. It’s also known as ‘tension-relief’.

Most people don’t know how to give value, but not give away too much. If you give people a false sense of their problem being solved, you’re actually doing them a disservice. 

I give a lot of value away for free but there’s so much I DON’T share for free. There’s a whole roadmap people get when we work together.

People pay for a path.

People need to work closely with you in order to have a transformation. We very rarely transform just from information. 


3. You’re Not Inspiring Action

A lot of people struggle to inspire their followers to take action.

I used to find this really hard too. I loved sharing helpful advice, but I rarely asked people to take the next step. 

When I realised this was hurting my business, I got more strategic.

It’s not about selling, it’s about inviting people to take the next best action towards you. That’s how you can best help them solve their problem!

Maybe it’s sharing about a free resource or event, or inviting them to have a strategy session with you. Make sure you add the benefits of taking the action. 

I call this being ‘elegantly influential’. 

A lot of people don’t add the right kind of CTA – ‘Call To Action’. 

The CTA is where the magic happens. However, your CTA’s won’t work if you don’t understand the right type and placement that’s needed, according to your client journey. 

You need the right kind of CTA –
‘Call To Action’. 


An effective CTA provides your reader or viewer with the next best logical step. 

A lot of people try to rush the process from cold to hot (getting someone from a Facebook ad into a call with them) and they don’t think about where someone is in their client journey. They make a high-commitment ask and they haven’t developed enough trust yet. 

You also want to avoid using the passive voice (e.g. “Let us know”, “If you want”) in your CTAs. Use verbs that compel people to take action — “Click here”, “Read now”, etc.

So let’s do a review.

If we did an audit on your business…

1. Do you have a well-thought-out content strategy that’s predictable and profitable? 

2. Is your content creating enough curiosity?

3. Are you inspiring people to take action?

Without your content leading to action that involves taking the next step towards you, it’s very hard to build a profitable business that helps people. 

Want to know the fastest way to attract clients online? Discover how at…

“How To Attract Clients With Compelling Content”

P.S. Whenever you’re ready… here are 3 other ways I can help you grow your coaching business:

1. Grab a free copy of my ‘Client Attraction Checklist‘

It’s a powerful roadmap to attracting leads, signing clients, and scaling your coaching business. — Grab It Here

2. Join the community and connect with Coaches who are also growing their business

It’s our Facebook community where ambitious Coaches learn to get more income, influence, and impact. — Join Us Here

3. Work with me privately

If you’d like to work directly with me … just send me a Facebook Message with the word “Private”… tell me a little about your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you all the details! — Message Here

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Amplify Your Influence, Business, Business coach, Business growth, business strategy, Coach, Coaching, Content, Content That Connects, Entrepreneur, Entrepreneurship, Kat Millar, marketing

October 28, 2021 by katmillar Leave a Comment

How To Get More Clients Using The Art Of Elegant Influence


In a world where trust is harder to find, and our ability to tune out messages is greater than ever…

…it’s important we have a more effective way to stand out, cut through the noise, and be noticed, for the right reasons.

There’s a lot of distrust online with fake news, pushiness, saturation, and interruptions. The amount of information that is being thrown at you is huge and this can sometimes become overwhelming.

It’s also really hard to know what is true and what isn’t – the genuine from the fake.

As a child, I used to play the game “Masterpiece” with my family. It’s a game about art and you take a card, which is a painting, and you match it together with a price.

What you see is an elegant front, but it’s really about what’s underneath.


The cards are then shuffled, a player takes a card and then tries to sell it by persuading the others that it is worth a great deal of money. It could be worth millions or not much at all, depending on if it is genuine or a fake.

What I learned from this game is what we see is an elegant front, but it’s really about what’s underneath. The cards are revealed and what’s fake and what’s genuine becomes known.

A forgery looks beautiful but ultimately, it didn’t come from the original painter.

It’s the same with content. Anyone can paint a pretty picture. Anyone can put out a blog post with other people’s intellectual property and claim it as their own.

It can look and sound really beautiful but is there a solid foundation underneath? You can come across really elegant … but is it just style are you sharing solid substance too?

The strength of true value needs to be underneath all that you do. You’re not copying what other people do but are presenting your original content, your genuine, authentic self.

You can have conviction and be confident in what you are sharing when it is your own brilliance. Drawing people to your foundation of authenticity makes the biggest difference when it comes to influence.

So let’s look at what elegant influence is NOT.

  • It’s NOT trying to use persuasion tactics
  • It’s NOT the words that you say

It’s NOT just about learning business skills

Now let’s look at what elegant influence IS.

  • It IS how people feel when they are listening to you, watching your videos.
  • It IS about personal character.
  • It IS about who you’re being, who you are.
  • It IS about working on yourself and not just about working on acquiring outward skills.

Have you ever met someone who has amazing business skills but not great people skills? They can be really smart and have a profitable business but you don’t sense any warmth from them at all.

Working on yourself and your own mindset is incredibly important to step into elegant influence.

Jim Rohn talks about having an “until mindset”. You keep going UNTIL it works.

When you make the decision to never give up on your dream, you are able to push through the disappointments and hardships and keep going.

You are able to see the money that you are spending on your own education as an investment in yourself, even before you see any of the money coming back.

I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t have regular coaching. My coaches call me higher and push me further with direction and clarity.

They help me work on my mindset so that I can be more of my authentic self and show up with elegant influence for you.

So how exactly do we use influence elegantly to attract clients and accelerate our business growth?

Here are 5 of the most powerful ways:


1. Be original

Others will know that you are not being original and not working in elegant influence. 

So many people are copying other people.


They will know it’s not genuine because you may not be able to talk about it in a confident, certain, convicted way like you would if you came up with it yourself.

I’m not referring to ‘modeling’ – which is one of the fastest ways to grow your business. 

Modeling is watching other businesses that are similar to yours and taking ideas, not content, and implementing them with your own voice.

Use your own voice by coming up with your own way of saying things. 

Begin developing a method that is really unique to you. This is so incredibly powerful.

It does take a lot more work and it can be hard, but stepping out and doing the ‘hard things’ is an opportunity for big growth and productivity in your business.

When it comes to being original, I recommend having a “Cave Day” or a “Cave Hour”. What this looks like for me is walking in nature listening to audiobooks. As I get ideas, I write them down in my phone.

Being original means that you can use other people to inspire you and then come up with your own ways of expressing these ideas.

Some ideas for “Cave Time” are:

  • Putting ear phones in for 30 mins a day
  • Going to local cafe by yourself
  • Reading a book for 30 mins a day
  • Sitting in a quiet place for 30 mins a day and just allowing your mind to think and come up with creative ideas

The idea is to have a ‘blank piece of paper moment’ where you are pouring out all of your ideas onto the piece of paper, like a brainstorming session.

A great idea is to do this away from your laptop so you are not easily distracted. Ideally, be in a quiet place, without distractions, allows your mind to get creative and invites ideas to flow freely to you.

Often when something is hard, your competitors aren’t doing it.


2. Be Professional

Many people don’t set themselves up to win by not looking professional or speaking professionally.

It’s not about perfectionism – it’s about professionalism.

I don’t strive for perfectionism, I strive for excellence. I strive to be outstanding. I strive to be polished and do the best job I can at communicating my value.

This doesn’t mean that I haven’t made massive mistakes. If I wasn’t willing to fail, to show up and do things badly, and launch so many products and services, I wouldn’t keep showing up consistently now.

Showing up, no matter what is having an entrepreneurial mindset.

It’s so important to get out there BEFORE you feel ready. You can make the commitment to do the best that you possibly can

Some ways to do this are:

  • By having a great Zoom background
  • Always looking your best
  • Taking the time to craft a great post instead of rushing to get ‘something’ out there – quality is so important 

This is a gift to your community when you’re engaging with them and you’re not distracted by your surroundings or what you look like when you’re presenting.


3. Be Soulful

Being soulful is about connecting to things that are outside of status, power, and money. This means tapping into something that is bigger than yourself.

Think about why it is so important to you to get that message out to your community, beyond making money.

Create content from a place of wanting to serve, being influential, being a thought leader… to challenge the status quo and not just talk from a practical level.

When you can show up and speak from your heart, and not be self-conscious but share your soulful message, people will pick up on that and it’s very attractive.

It’s like the Masterpiece game – it’s not just a beautiful painting, it’s not style without substance … it’s soulful.


It’s being professional and being elegant, but it’s also about having that deeper mission, that deeper ‘why’.


4. Be Specific

I look at some content and at times it can be quite vague. Clarity is very important.

Clarity very rarely comes upfront. Clarity comes along the journey.

Great impact isn’t made when you’re not being really specific. There is such a saturation online now so if you want to gain and hold people’s attention, you have to be specific.

Think about your website, your social media profiles, your comments that you’re putting online.

Are you speaking very specifically and directly to your dream client? Or are you trying to be everything to everyone?

When your dream client comes to you, it’s so important that they know exactly what you do and know why you’re unique.

They want you to know that you ‘get them’ and you do this by speaking to them very specifically. This is how you gain connection and influence.

We’re all hungry for people who speak our language. To be an effective influencer, you want to be an interpreter of your dream client’s journey.

You have already been through the journey with its road bumps and obstacles, and you successfully navigated that terrain so now you’re their guide.

You’re there to interpret a very specific journey for other people.

5. Be Brave

It’s important to stand FOR something and stand AGAINST something if you want to be influential.

Influence is motivating and inspiring someone to take a new action to improve their life.


In order for them to move on that new action, they need to change their thinking, their perspective on their situation, and about themselves.

To help them create a new perspective, a new belief, you can inspire them and not be wishy-washy.

Your message needs to be bold and brave … and not everyone is going to like it. And that’s totally OK.

Marketing is about attracting some people and repelling others.

You are to be really firm in who you are, in what you believe and what you don’t believe, and then you get your dream people into your community … and life is super exciting.

These are the 5 things I recommend you focus on to get more clients using the art of elegant influence

They will help you to connect better with your ideal clients and you’ll be able to attract more of the right people into your business.

What this ultimately means for you is that you can help more people, make a bigger difference in the world, create the impact that you’re here to make, have a profitable business doing what you love …

… and have greater fulfillment in your life.

P.S Whenever you’re ready… here are 3 other ways I can help you grow your business:

1. Grab a free copy of my ‘Client Attraction Checklist‘

It’s a powerful roadmap to attracting leads, signing clients, and scaling your coaching business. — Grab It Here

2. Join the community and connect with like-minded Coaches & Experts

It’s our Facebook community where ambitious entrepreneurs learn how to increase their income, influence, and impact. — Join Us Here

3. Work with me privately

If you’d like to work directly with me … just send me a Facebook Message with the word “Private”… tell me a little about your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you all the details! — Message Here

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Amplify Your Influence, Business, Business coach, Business growth, business strategy, Coach, Coaching, Content, Content That Connects, Entrepreneur, Entrepreneurship, Kat Millar, marketing

October 26, 2021 by katmillar 2 Comments

3 Beliefs That Prevent People From Having A Profitable Business




We human beings are pretty masterful at throwing obstacles in front of us.

We usually do it to avoid hard things. Our brains are wired to avoid things outside of our comfort zone.

These obstacles we’re placing in the way are stopping our success. A lot of times in business, however, we don’t even realise we’re doing it.

We think the obstacle is truth… not a belief.

Profitable business owners don’t just do things differently than other people — they think differently than the people around them. 

Over the years, I’ve spoken to thousands of people and heard a lot of reasons why they’re not sharing their expertise online consistently.

I’ve summarised these into the top 3 beliefs I’ve observed that may be delaying your success.

Limiting beliefs can keep you small and stuck – but they don’t have to. You can drop ALL the beliefs that are holding you back right now, with a bit of awareness.

The world’s most successful people have one thing in common: they’ve mastered the ability to produce the results they desire most. And it starts with our thinking.

Your brain is a wonderful tool so let it work for you and ditch those beliefs that will keep you from your success.

When it comes to stepping up as an expert, the first belief that many people have is:

1. They believe they’re not ready

A lot of people think that those who run events, speak onstage, are interviewed for magazines or on podcasts must be there because they have authority. 

Thinking you have to be THE authority in their space before they get onto a platform and hold a microphone …

… is like putting the horse before the cart.

They wonder if they have to know more before they step onto a platform. This is not the way it works. You don’t have to be ready to step up.

You don’t need to have a website, a fancy logo, a certification before you are able to take action and get out there and share your knowledge online.

I’m not sure where we get the idea that someone needs to tell us that it’s ok to position ourselves as an expert in our topic.

A lot of people don’t put themselves out there because they allow fear to stop them in their tracks.

You don’t need to have success before you put yourself on a platform.


Successful people don’t wait to be selected. Successful people believe they can select themselves.

For example, my amazing friend Lisa is a phenomenal copywriter.

Lisa made a decision to take action and created a beautiful company, “Sacred Social Media”.

She stepped out and became fully booked and within 3 weeks, she was turning clients away.

She then put things in place – a Zoom account, a payment gateway, a website, etc. She started with social media, gained clients, and moved forward from there.

So can you.

“Once upon a time most people had to wait: to be accepted, to get funded, to be promoted–to somehow be ‘discovered,'” writes Dharmesh Shah, founder of CTO of Hubspot.

“Not anymore… You can do almost anything you have the desire and skills and drive to do; you don’t need to wait for someone else to discover your talents.

“You get to discover yourself. The only thing holding you back is your willingness to take the leap and try.”

Blame is all about being stuck focusing on you, rather than getting out there and being of service to people.

Knowing that you’re fully responsible for your success is one of the most important beliefs in business. 

You have wisdom, experience, and knowledge right now that can take you to your next level, and you don’t have to wait to have all of your ducks lined up in a perfect row before you can do it.

You can help more people in a bigger way NOW!

New belief:  “I’m Ready Already!”


2. They believe they can figure things out on their own

It’s easy to think, “I’m all alone, sitting behind my laptop, and I need to find all of the answers myself.”

It is tempting to think that running an online business is a solo venture. 

After all, you can sit for hours, oftentimes by yourself, building and communicating through a computer screen. 

It feels isolating but at the same time, a lot of people think that it’s the only way … that being “self-employed” means spending most of your time by yourself.

I promise you, nothing could be further from the truth.

“Self-employed” simply means being your own boss, not being by yourself

… and guess what? 

The best corporate bosses in the world actually seek out contact with others — their peers, colleagues, employees, and clients.

That’s how they learn what’s working and what’s not in the way they run their company.

The business owners I know who are thriving, myself included, have mentors they trust and can turn to again and again.

Having mentors for different areas of your life is not only important but essential for your success, especially in business.

Mentors and coaches hold you to a higher standard. They hold your goals and potential high while you’re walking towards them.

It’s great to watch free webinars, listen to podcasts, and attend conferences but it’s important not to get stuck in over-consuming. You want to move from ‘consumer mode’ into ‘creator mode’.

The fastest way to accelerate your success is to work with someone who is doing what you want to do. Someone who has gone before you and is having success in their space. 

The best of the best have mentors and advisors around them.

New belief:  “No-one succeeds on their own.”


3. They believe they can succeed with just a few hours a day

The very first purchase you might think about making is to buy the most comfortable office chair possible. 

They are expensive but you’ll be so grateful you did, because to grow a successful business, you’ll spend a ridiculous amount of time in it.

A good question to ask yourself is, “If I was working in someone’s company, what would I be fired for?”

If there was a video camera on you 24/7, what would you be fired for? For most people, 9 times out of 10 it’s laziness.

Will Smith said, “I’ve never really viewed myself as particularly talented. I’ve viewed myself as slightly above average in talent. And where I excel is a ridiculous, sickening, work ethic.”

There’s no easy way around it … you cannot rely on your talent alone. No matter how talented you are, your talent is going to fail you if you’re not skilled. 

You need to put in the work and dedicate yourself to being better every single day.

Warren Buffet says, “I wake up in the morning thinking, “Today I want to be the best investor in the world.””

I know there is NO WAY that I would ever be fired from my company.

Your worthiness issues start to vanish when you know you’ve worked hard for something.

You can help more people, create a greater impact, gain more fulfilment in your life, and have a profitable business doing what you love. 


There’s a reality to putting in the effort of 8 hours a day and making great money. Your self-worth problems start to disappear and no one can make you feel like you don’t deserve success.

Eventually, you can reduce the effort when your systems, marketing, and funnels are all set up and still continue to have success … 

… but you have to do the effort first to show your brain that you’ve earned it.

New belief: “My work ethic is unfireable.”


When you believe:

1. I’m ready already
2. No one succeeds on their own
3. My work ethic is unfireable

… you can connect better with your ideal clients and you will attract more of the right people that you can help, into your business.

And what that ultimately means is that you can help more people, create a greater impact, gain more fulfillment in your life, and have a profitable business doing what you love. 

Do you want help doing this so you can get more quality clients?

I work together with people in the following areas:

1) Creating compelling content that converts

You’ll craft the right language to attract your ideal client, so the right people can immediately see what you’re all about and that your program is right for them. We also makeover your existing marketing and online presence and make sure your offer is irresistible. I’ll help you uplevel your package for your stage in business and the stage that your ideal clients are at to create rock-solid certainty in your offer that people find it hard to say no to. We work together on your marketing campaign to get the right people to attend your presentation.

2) Creating automated marketing funnels

You will create your 24/7 marketing machine that sets up your launch for success. You don’t need to be a tech expert, every single step is laid out for you to effortlessly follow. You’ll learn my unique method to monetise your event before it even happens. You’ll know exactly how to increase your registrations and how to get people to show up live. Plus you’ll get my strategy for how to leverage the presentation afterward.

3) Creating profitable presentations

We use my proven ‘Profit From Presenting’ formula to craft an event that signs up truly ideal clients. You learn exactly how to structure your presentation to give yourself the highest possible chance of filling your program.
You’ll also learn how to deliver with confidence, what content to share and what to leave out to make it valuable, but also profitable. You’ll know how to keep people engaged right to the end and have people raving about your event and telling their friends about it.

There is the option to work either in a small group mastermind or 1-on-1 (very limited spaces for 1-on-1).

In order to be the best candidate to get results, you must have experience serving clients in your area of expertise and getting results.

You would also have a pretty clear idea of what problem you solve and who you enjoy helping the most.

You must also be willing to create content, either with writing and/or video, and sharing your knowledge about the topics you’re an expert in.

P.S. Whenever you’re ready… here are 3 other ways I can help you grow your coaching business:

1. Grab a free copy of my ‘Client Attraction Checklist‘

It’s a powerful roadmap to attracting leads, signing clients, and scaling your coaching business. — Grab It Here

2. Join the community and connect with Coaches who are also growing their business

It’s our Facebook community where ambitious Coaches learn to get more income, influence, and impact. — Join Us Here

3. Work with me privately

If you’d like to work directly with me … just send me a Facebook Message with the word “Private”… tell me a little about your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you all the details! — Message Here

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Amplify Your Influence, Business, Business coach, Business growth, business strategy, Coach, Coaching, Content, Content That Connects, Entrepreneur, Entrepreneurship, Kat Millar, marketing

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