Would you love to be the type of person who confidently and consistently shares your knowledge with groups?
But you find yourself procrastinating on recording live videos or running online events?
We all have a next level of presenting.
Maybe you’ve been doing pre-recorded videos and your next level of presenting is to do live videos.
Maybe you’ve been doing 60 or 90-minute Masterclasses and your next level of presenting is to run a ½-day or full-day event.
If we’re not taking that next step towards our next level, or we’re not presenting consistently there’s usually only ONE reason WHY.
- Not “I’m too busy”
- Not “I don’t like speaking on camera”
- Not “I’m bad at technology”.
- The one reason is usually fear.
The next step outside our comfort zone usually has a fear attached to it.
A lot of people I talk to are avoiding their next level of presenting because of fear.
I get it because I had so much fear around presenting.
Fear can be really crippling.
And the problem with fear is that we often think that it’s keeping us safe, when it’s actually just keeping us small and limited.
If you want to become a more effective presenter, it’s so important to overcome any fears you have around showing up fully and authentically.
Otherwise, the fears can be like a ball and chain that will hold you back.
Which is why I want to help you understand the fears that are in the way of your next level and give you some practical strategies and mindset strategies to overcome them.
So, you can…
1. Show up online more powerfully, more consistently, and more authentically
2. Build a deeper connection with your community
3. Get more engagement, and ultimately, more ideal clients
If you want to accelerate your business growth, the trust people have in you, and how fast you get clients, you need to discover any fear that’s stopping you taking action.
In this video, ‘How I Overcame My Biggest Fear Around Presenting’ I’m sharing 3 main ways I’ve found to overcome the fear so that you can show up and shine online…
You can check out the video here…
Over the years I’ve discovered that there are 4 main fears that people have when it comes to presenting confidently.
- A fear of failure – getting it wrong, looking silly, like incompetent
- A fear of rejection – that people won’t like what we say
- A fear of loss of security – feeling unsafe, uncertain, insecure
- A fear of criticism – The fear of what people think of us, a fear of judgment, which can stop us from sharing authentically what’s on our hearts.
Most of us have at least one of those fears. And all these fears can be total dream-killers!
These fears stop us from stepping up as the leader and the influencer we were born to be.
In 2011, I was working in London and I attended a really big convention in Birmingham with a friend and I had one of those lightbulb moments when I was listening to the speakers.
I realised that if I wanted to reach more people, I had to get over my fear of speaking to groups and learn the skills of presenting.
I remember afterwards sitting in a hotel lobby drinking wine by a fireplace with my friend and talking about the speakers and I said to him – I’m sick of just working with people one-on-one. I want to be a speaker.
It was a turning point where dream and reality collided.
It was such a magical feeling of passion and excitement and energy!
Since that time, I’ve been totally committed to learning and upskilling in the area of presenting.
It wasn’t until I learned how to do it that I started growing my audience and growing my income.
I’ve found that presenting is the best way to get clients.
For most of my life, I didn’t like being seen. I didn’t like attention.
I went bright red whenever it was my turn to speak, even in a small group of friends.
Now one of the things that I’m MOST passionate about, is getting in front of a group of people and sharing tools, strategies, and inspiration that can help people.
I’ve completely overcome my fear and although I still get nervous, it now no longer stops me.
My mission is to help women overcome the fears holding them back, and gain the confidence to consistently present their message to the world.
Here are the 3 main ways I’ve found to overcome the fear, so that you can show up and shine online…
1. Focus on the person who needs you
Rather than feeling like you’re talking to the masses, think of it as talking to one person, one human being who needs your help, and that really helps us overcome the fear of rejection.
If you’re feeling fear around your next level of presenting, it’s really good to focus on the person who needs you.
Think about the confusion they have, and how you used to be confused about the same things.
Think about how you used to be overwhelmed, disappointed, or frustrated about the things that you now have answers for.
Going back to that time when you were in their shoes before you found the answers, really wakes up a desire to speak up.
The world’s hurting right now and you have keys that can help people to improve the quality of their life.
Often we try to avoid our next level, because we think it’s going to give us less of what we want.
For example, our brain might be saying something like – “If you show up on a Facebook Live you might get rejected. If you show up on a Facebook Live and stuff up your words, you’re going to feel like a failure. You won’t feel secure. If you show up, you might get criticised.
There are so many things that your brain can come up with to stop you from taking action so you try to avoid these things.
Sometimes we think that the action means we’re going to get less of what we want but we actually end up getting more – because ultimately, what these four fears sit under is a loss of love, acceptance or belonging, and a loss of true human connection.
That’s what you and I are craving. We’re craving human connection.
Often, we avoid our next level because we think it’s going to lead to rejection or criticism, which will give us less connection with people.
The sad thing is, it costs us. It ends up giving us LESS of what we want – true human connection.
When you really connect deeply with your ideal client and what they’re struggling with, it does something so powerful in your brain.
However, the fear of not showing up because you’re so scared of what people think – whether they are going to judge you, can stop you from reaching this person that’s struggling.
This is the person that you have the answers for!
Something practical you can do to connect with them in your imagination is to write them a letter or journal as though you are them.
This can really help you feel connected with them as a human being that you can help, rather than thinking of speaking to the masses.
2. Take courageous action consistently
The fear is a result of our beliefs.
We only have chronic fear because of something we keep choosing to believe.
They’re just thoughts in our minds. They’re stories we tell ourselves.
The reason most people have these fears is because they think it doesn’t matter if they keep believing them.
They don’t think of the consequence of keeping believing them.
Just because it pops in your head doesn’t mean it’s truth. These aren’t facts.
Don’t allow your mind to run wild.
You can’t keep believing these thoughts and expect your results to change.
If you’re saying anything to yourself that’s stopping you from taking brave action, you need to stop saying that.
You need to speak the truth.
And you need to prove to your brain that action is safe.
This requires taking action despite feeling fear. We can’t wait for the fear to go away, it doesn’t. We have to act while we still feel it. We only succeed when we’re willing to fail.
Confidence is attached to progress, and we only progress if we practice. Publically. We don’t overcome fears sitting in our bedroom.
This freaked me out, a lot. But I realised it was the only way. I was trying to go around the mountain, under the mountain, away from the mountain – when I knew that eventually it was inevitable that I needed to climb the mountain.
If you don’t feel you’re progressing, you’ll start to lose your confidence and you’ll stay stuck in fear.
When we don’t take consistent, courageous action, we get stuck in over-thinking. Suffering from the elusive ‘perfectionism’ (that doesn’t exist).
We internalise all the worries and potential setbacks and over-think everything, instead of just acting.
If we want to grow, we can’t wait for our feelings to change. Our feelings will always try to protect us and keep us safe.
If you don’t start doing the things you don’t feel like doing, you could wake up one year from today and be in exactly the same place.
Most of us started our businesses to make more money, make a bigger impact, and have greater freedom.
But if we’re not showing up and presenting consistently online, it’s really hard to get these things.
One of the ways I overcome my biggest fear around presenting was taking action despite the fear.
I kept putting myself out there, even though it was uncomfortable.
* I recorded live videos, even though I found it uncomfortable
* I ran events, even though I didn’t know what I was doing
* I surrounded myself with encouraging cheerleaders (a.k.a great coaches and mentors).
* I continuously put my hand up at events until I got more comfortable with the spotlight
* I applied to speak at venues that scared me (like the International Convention Centre)
* I went to lots of networking events on my own
I’ve now spoken in front of hundreds of groups and no longer have a fear of public speaking. I still feel nerves, but I reframe them as growth and energy and do it anyway.
I’m so grateful to have awesome people around me who are powerful, strong, and who aren’t afraid of their presence, personality, and ideas taking up big space in the world.
I’m so grateful for my coaches and mentors who have modelled courage, who have felt the fear and done it anyway….
The people who have continuously fought against fear in order to bring their knowledge, experience, creativity, and ideas to the world.
Taking your place in the world feels good. Speaking up feels good. All it requires is choosing to take the next brave action on your path.
Something practical you can do is write down what is a courageous action you’ve been putting off and set a date to do it. Then put it into your calendar.
3. Follow a Formula
Focusing on the people you’re here to help and taking courageous consistent action can get you over the line to stepping up to your next level.
So you decide to go live, to do the event, but then there’s another story coming up.
And it says something like…
“I don’t know what to say,” or “I don’t know how to make it come across in the way I mean.”
“What if no one likes it? Or What if I struggle to come across as credible?”
“What structure do I use?”
“What needs to be in the presentation in order to get engagement?”
Maybe you don’t know what call to action to share.
Maybe you don’t have a clear offer.
Maybe you’re not sure how to make your presentation emotional and awaken a desire within people that inspires them to take action.
And if you don’t have the right tools, skills, and support to overcome them, the stories and fears will run your business.
How often have you thought about running an event, but you haven’t?
How often did you think about doing a FB live video, but you didn’t?
That’s because it’s hard to work on these fears without having structures, tools, templates – a proven formula
You overcome fear with a formula.
The fears are not just about ‘just doing it’ because you also need the skills and the tools – you need the roadmap.
When you have the roadmap – the formula for how to do it, all the fears start to vanish because you know what to do.
The fears don’t go away on their own. If you don’t know how to present, the fears will keep your business stuck, and small.
When I was stuck in fear of failure, it was just because I didn’t know how.
I was trying to attempt something that I didn’t know how to do well. SMILE
Following a formula means you overcome the fear in a very practical way, without having to do years of therapy and mindset work.
If you want to accelerate your business, you need someone outside of you to help you through it.
Without my mentors, I never would have been able to overcome the crippling fear I had of what people think.
I had a lot of coaching sessions to be able to do what I do.
I have a lot more coaching sessions to do to go to my next level and I’m always going to have a mentor.
Whatever you want to do next, it’s unlikely you’re going to go to your next level on your own.
Some of you are trying to do it all on their own and it’s almost impossible.
One of the fastest ways to overcome fear is with a formula.
For me, it was learning the skills and getting the tools – like templates and a structure – that helped me step up, despite the fear.
It’s not about getting rid of the fear so you never feel it.
It’s about getting to the point where you can take action consistently DESPITE having the fear.
A clear, step-by-step how-to.
A formula stops fear from stopping you.
You overcome fear with a formula.
The most important thing I did that overcame my biggest fear around presenting, was I invested in learning presenting skills (and realised it was so much easier and more once I had the how all laid out step by step).
If you recognise that there’s a next level for you and you also recognise you need the HOW…
And if you’d like to learn how to create a presentation that inspires people and gets you clients, I’d like to invite you to my upcoming FREE live workshop “How to Get Clients with Online Workshops” on Tuesday, August 23 at 7 pm AEST.
- How To Create An Engaging Workshop Presentation
- How To Deliver A World-Class Workshop
- How To Market Your Workshop So The Right People Come
You’ll learn how to:
- Use FREE events to reach your financial goals
- Grow your business by helping more people using my proven formula
- Build trust and connection fast, even if you struggle with nerves
- Create engaging and profitable presentations
- Position yourself as an expert
- Consistently sell out your programs
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