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December 7, 2022 by katmillar Leave a Comment

How To Know If You’re Giving Too Much Value Away For Free

I’ve been asked this question a lot lately…

How do we know how much to share… without giving too much away?

We’re all told – give value, value, value!

What does giving value actually mean?

And how do you know if you’re giving away too much value for free?

How do we help people, without them feeling they don’t need to buy from us?

How do we share in a way that people think, “I need more from her?”

If we give people a sense that we’re giving them everything in our free content, people won’t buy from us.

Here are 3 powerful keys to knowing if you’re giving too much away…

1. You’re not highlighting the gap

I like to say ‘Show the gaps, don’t fill the gaps”

Our content needs to show people what they need and what’s missing.

This is super important.

When people are deciding what content they want to share, a lot of times think “What can I teach that’s valuable?”

Then they post it hoping it will lead to people wanting to work with them.

They hope that people will enjoy it and want MORE.

Rather than showing them what is missing.

And this leads to people consuming your content for free and not wanting to work with you.

2. You’re giving a banquet, not a taste

It’s so important that we show people what they DON’T know.

The way to overcome this is giving what I call value-voids.

Share value, leave a void.

content that converts is designed to BOTH relieve tension AND create tension.

False sense of solution I’m going to give you everything I know.

One of the pillars of my content formula is curiosity. If we give people a sense of resolution, we rob them of curiosity

3. You’re not using influence strategically

You need to learn how to use influence so that your content works.

When you learn the layers of how to do it – you can be so much more certain that your content will work.

It will do its job.

Infusing Influence into your content is thinking:

  • What do you want your content to do?
  • What do you want your topic to do?
  • What’s the purpose of the content?

In this video I share:

How to know if you’re giving away too much for free – and what to do about it.

You can check out the video here…

There’s a strategic way of adding value.

There’s an influential way to structure.

How to use headlines – there’s an approach. In my event, I go deeper.

Always work with contrast. This is what they do without thinking.

Value is not the thing…

…Not ONLY value – too much value…

“Value is not, here’s everything I know.”

Often – particularly as women we feel we need to prove our worth by giving so much value that we confuse teaching with value.

If you give everything away and they don’t act on it. Then you’re devaluing it and it’s not value.

You only know if something is good if you can compare them.

If you’re missing this one thing (tension)

What IS value?

Every time we teach something new there’s a responsibility to help someone apply. Otherwise, it fizzles out – and they don’t do it.

People think “oh cool I get this.”

Yet are you teaching them how to implement – and getting them excited to implement – and getting rid of the beliefs holding them back from implementation?

WHEN YOU GET THIS RIGHT

  1. People aren’t reaching out to you or responding to your emails or messages
  2. People tell you how valuable your content is, but don’t sign up for your program or offer

1. Show People

So, what are you actually selling then?

When you package your knowledge for sale, you’re actually offering 3 valuable components that are massively more valuable than just content.

I call these The 3 Essential C’s

  • Curriculum – The complete A to Z curriculum
  • Coaching – The coaching and guidance from you as an expert
  • Community – The support from a group of like-minded people doing the same journey

1. Curriculum – we know there’s a ton of information out there on the internet.

Having an A to Z journey is completely different. This enables you to trust the credibility

2. Offering all the content in one place with a logical, sequential approach that gives a specific outcome so people can’t get distracted or lost is extremely valuable.

People pay for a path.

3. Coaching – Let’s face it. There are so many questions like “Which headline is better.” Being able to ask an expert with experience and wisdom is priceless.

4. Community – No one wants to do it alone. When you create a thriving community – that’s what people want.

Influence is a craft you can learn.

If there’s one key point I want you to take away, it’s this:

When you know how to use elegant influence to create compelling content, your marketing becomes easier, faster, and more enjoyable, and you show up with more confidence.

You connect better with your ideal clients and attract more right clients into your business that you can help.

The good news is, it’s a skill that anyone can develop.

Kat xo


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Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Amplify Your Influence, Content creation, Content That Connects, Influence skills

August 30, 2021 by katmillar Leave a Comment

3 Secrets To Becoming More Influential

Have you noticed that what influences us and gets us to buy has changed significantly over the past few years?

How about the past 6-12 months?

The answer is, absolutely, definitely yes it has.

The situation we find ourselves in now with lockdowns and business shutdowns really has rewritten the rules of what grabs our attention and influences us to take action.

Given all the noise, complexity, and uncertainty that we’re dealing with in these times, where everyone has had to go online to help their business survive, have you stopped to think about what makes someone influential?

As business owners, our job is to influence people to take action to improve the quality of their lives. I’ve spent so much of my career specifically researching exactly how to influence others.

So what exactly does influence look like for you as a business owner? How do you develop it? How do you use it to accelerate your business?

In this article, I share some of the secrets I’ve discovered from my quest to answer these important questions, and what has shifted in recent times.

So, how can you become more influential? Here are three ways…

1. Be The Interpreter Of Your Audience’s Journey


Because of the fast pace of information coming at us, it’s more important than ever to have clarity about what result we help people get, and what makes us unique.

Back in the day, you could be the expert on something broad. 10 years ago, you could write an eBook, and people would actually read it. Now, most people aren’t going to read your eBook.

Most people are not going to read every page on your website, they’re not going to read every email you send them. There’s way too much noise out there. Now if you want to get and keep people’s attention, you have to be specific.

Just do a little mental check right now. Think about your website, your social media profiles, your comments that you put on Facebook, and everywhere that you show up online.

Are you speaking very specifically to your ideal clients, or are you trying to be everything to everyone?

In order to be influential, you need to be able to clearly communicate your message.


You need to have clarity. Clarity about what you do, and clarity for why you’re unique. When I come across you, I want to feel like you’re speaking to me specifically. In order to be influential, you need to be able to clearly communicate your message.

You don’t have to be super crazy, different, and weird to stand out, you just need to be yourself.

I remember I used to always try and be super professional and always have this business persona. In any business scenario where I went to business events, I would try to be this super corporate type person, which was not me at all.

I hadn’t worked in corporate since 2004, but I was trying to fit into this corporate world that was just was so not me. It’s a journey to peel back the layers, and actually be more of who you actually are. What influences people the most is when you can just be yourself.

I have 3 questions for you when it comes to communicating a clear message:

  1. What do you have deep mastery in?
  2. What language do you know better than anybody else?
  3. What journey can you hold someone’s hand and walk them through?

Give yourself full permission to make an imperfect decision about what you want to be known for.

As Brene Brown says, “Clear is kind”.

We are hungry for people who speak our language, we are hungry for people to interpret the world for us. That’s the power of getting clear in your message.

Clear is kind. – Brene Brown

There’s some research that now shows that 50% of our decisions about someone now happens before we even meet them. So, most people that we meet now, we’ve already gone and googled them.

If you googled your name right now, how happy would you be with what actually came back? On a scale of 1-10?

Because if people are looking you up before they actually start working with you, you want to make sure that your online presence is very visible.  It needs to be fresh, relevant, and clear.

We have no shortage of information. Your clients and your target market don’t have an information gap. They have more information than they could possibly know what to do with. What they need is an interpreter to stand in the gap.

I’m constantly amazed when I see people’s websites and their last blog update was two years ago. Your website is like your storefront. You need to regularly freshen it up.

You have figured out your journey… and now you’re here to interpret for others. We do this by becoming the interpreter of the world to our target market.

We don’t need more information. We need a more digestible step-by-step interpretation of what we most need to know to take our next steps.

2. Develop A Question Antenna


Number two is to develop a relevant question antenna. A relevant question antenna keeps your eyes and ears open for what your ideal clients are asking and then answering them.

We need to become fully fluent in the questions and language of our ideal clients.  Then we need to be showing up and answering them.

Find out what questions your ideal client is asking in their own mind. How am I going to solve this? How do I do it? What do I do? You know, we’re always asking ourselves questions.

Keep your ears and eyes open so that you can become fluent in their language and questions of your ideal clients and then show up and answer those questions consistently. This is how you become influential.

My content is based on relevant questions my ideal clients have.  I keep a list of questions and then I answer them. What I recommend is keeping a questions bank, like a piggy bank that you put questions. You can do this in a Google Doc, or in Evernote or OneNote.

Keep a ‘questions bank’ … like a piggy bank of questions that your ideal clients are asking that you can answer.

Keep a record of what questions people are asking in Facebook groups.  I’m sure you’re in multiple Facebook groups. You can also Google questions that people ask in the areas of your expertise. You can look at comments on YouTube videos relating to your expertise.

Keep a list and then share the answers to them in your emails, your social media posts, in your Facebook Live videos, in your sales scripts, and in your workshops.

If you want to be influential, you want to be fluent in the questions your target market has about the journey you can help them navigate, so start collecting questions.

3. Have An ‘Above And Beyond’ Mindset


If you want to become influential you need to have an above and beyond mindset that says, “I will add more value than anybody else in my space.”

I’ve observed over the past 18 years as I’ve been going to business events, that the people who are truly influential are the ones who have an above and beyond mindset.  

It’s like they have a mantra that’s infused in their mind and that they live by the mantra that says they will go above and beyond anyone else in their space.

They want to contribute to someone else’s journey. They’ve walked all the mountains and valleys and they have lessons to share from their own journey. They want to add value and help people by becoming the best interpreter of the journey that they’ve navigated.

A good interpreter has walked in your shoes before and they have created digestible knowledge that’s useful.  A good interpreter uses your language and creates content for you in easy-to-digest bites.

A good interpreter has walked in your shoes before and they have created digestible knowledge that’s useful.

When I first started out in business, I was so confused. I had no idea where to start when it came to creating a website, creating email automation sequences, or how to set up a landing page. I didn’t know how to make it all fit together, how to integrate my payment gateways – all the many things we need to learn.

The business world can be so confusing. This is why I love helping my clients with their business because I figured out all the answers to all these hundreds and hundreds of questions that I had myself.

I asked my mentors and business coaches who I was being taught by and I invested in their courses. I’ve taken what I’ve learned and created my own method. I’ve used my methods myself and made sure that they worked. And now I teach it to my clients.

My method is a very step-by-step method of only the things that you need. And I have left out the fluff because I was coming across a lot of programs that had way too much fluff.

I heard an incredible talk by Julie Masters at the recent ‘HerBusiness’ event and what she said impacted me so deeply.  She said that the future belongs to those who out-contribute and not out-interrupt their target market.

Julie said that in business there are tactics that people try to use: You can try to out-interrupt your competition. The thought here is that you interrupt people often enough so that they buy from you.

She said you can try to out-spend your competitors and spend more than anybody else to interrupt your target clients more often than anybody else. You can try and out-shout your competition and just turn up the volume and get louder.

But we are living in an age when none of those strategies really work anymore.

What if you made a decision that said, “I will contribute more than ANYONE else in my space!”

Influence isn’t about hacking the algorithms, it’s not about finding the latest tactic, it’s not about fancy brands or logos. Influence starts by truly, deeply caring about people.

So when it comes to being an influencer, you want to think about the next level that you can go to in your influence.

Ask yourself what steps you can take. What can you execute? The future belongs to people who have the speed of execution.

It’s not about being the most knowledgeable, it’s about being willing to take action on the next thing in front of you and the next step. I want to challenge you to pick one thing and execute it.

So what is one thing you’re going to take action on to become a more influential person?

It doesn’t take years, it doesn’t take hustling. It takes focusing on the things that matter most, which is contributing at the highest level.

I’d love to help you become more influential in your space, so you can sign up more quality clients and contribute at a much greater level.

This is an invitation for coaches, consultants, and experts who already have achieved results with people and want to earn an extra $5k-$10k+/month ASAP by signing up new, quality clients.

We would work together intensively to:

1) Make your offer irresistible. I’ll help you uplevel your package for your stage in business and the stage that your ideal clients are at to create rock-solid certainty in your offer. We’ll unpack in-depth your client’s journey from point A to point B and refine your signature system. Then we map out the best ways to attract your best-fit clients.

2) Clarify your language. I’ll help you discover and craft the right language and messaging to call in the right clients. We get clarity on their existing beliefs and how to shift their beliefs to inspire them to want to take action and create results.

3) Present content that converts. We use my proven process on video or in posts and emails to attract truly ideal, quality clients. I make sure you’re following my frameworks as precisely as possible – so that you get enquiries from your content.

In order to be the best candidate to get results, you must have experience serving clients in your area of expertise and getting results, and already have a pretty clear idea of what problem you solve and who you enjoy helping the most.

You must also be willing to create content, either writing and/or being on video and sharing your thoughts about the topics you’re an expert in.

I also offer some mini packages for people who only need certain components of what I do, for example, content makeovers and messaging clarity

If you’re interested, send me a PM on Facebook and we’ll chat over Messenger to see if it’s a fit.

It would be helpful if you included the following info in your message:

  • What kind of business you have or what your expertise is
  • How long you’ve been in business/how much experience you have in helping people in your area of expertise
  • Your current packages/offers and price points

One or two answers for each question are fine. I’ll ask if I need more information.

If you prefer, you can book in for a 15-minute call here.

I look forward to chatting with you!

Keep shining.

Kat

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Amplify Your Influence, Business, Business coach, Coach, Entrepreneur, entrepreneur coach, Influence, Influence skills, influencer, Kat Millar

September 5, 2019 by katmillar Leave a Comment

How To Have The Body Language Of Confidence

Have you noticed how one person can appear super confident, while another person comes across as unconfident – even if both people are saying similar things?

Confidence is not just about what we say, but what our body is saying as we say it.

I think you’ll agree, if someone has really unconfident body language, you can tell straight away they don’t fully value or believe in themselves, or what they’re offering.

Our body language is a reflection of our confidence.

In this video and article, I share with you how to have the body language of confidence.

This is part 1 of a 3-part series about how to have the language of confidence.

 

 

Think about influence. If you’re a business owner, if you’re a coach or any kind of service provider, that person is buying in to your confidence, right?

People are not going to buy from you if you are not confident in yourself and what you’re offering.

Have you ever made a significant purchase, actually invested quite a lot of money in something where the salesperson or the service provider was really unconfident?

Probably not right?

Because we buy off people who have confidence and boldness in what they’re offering.

They believe in themselves, they know their worth and their value.

You have to be confident in three different ways.

The first way is your body language.

Body language is estimated to be roughly 55% of our communication.

It’s not just about what we say, but it’s how we say it. It’s about what our body is saying.

Our tonality, the way we say something is about 38% of our communication, and words are only about 7%.

A lot of trainers focus on the words – what to say, and our words are really important. I’m going to cover that in the third part of this series.

But in this article, I share tips on body language, because it can really make or break your ability to sign up clients your ability to make an offer confidently and make a sale.

Recently I was asked by a company to come in and train their staff on how to be more engaging and market themselves better.

We were brainstorming in this meeting yesterday and talking about all the different things that stop people from taking action, from being inspired to buy, and act.

And the first thing that we decided to start with is communication skills.

Because you can have the most amazing product or service in the world.

You can have all the written copywriting in place.

But if you are not inspiring, influential and confident in the way you deliver it, people are unlikely to buy it.

 

There are 3 main things that make up confident body language.

 

1. Open body language

When you first meet someone, they are making a first impression of you within about the first few seconds.

People are sizing you up and judging you. We have to, because it keeps us safe, right? We’ve got this in-built judging part of us to protect us, we want to know if that person is trustworthy, if that person is safe.

Part of our brain is scanning the body language to make sure that that person can be trusted. The more closed we are, the less confident we look.

So when you meet someone at a networking event, for example, if your body language is closed, people automatically, at an unconscious level discount you and lower you in your positioning inside their mind.

When you meet people – are you crossing your arms?

Are you putting your hands behind or body or clasping your hands in front of you?

At an unconscious level, this sends out signals to the person that you’re communicating with that you are not open to them.

And closed people aren’t usually warm, and are usually less trustworthy.

When I get people up in my workshops to stand in front of the group, pretty much everyone closes up, crosses their hands or arms or puts their arms behind their back -whatever it is that makes them feel less threatened.

Closed body language makes you appear more nervous and less confident.

So make sure that when you’re standing talking to someone that you keep your arms at your side, or use your hands purposefully.

It can be a really hard thing to do.

The most important thing you can practice with body language is standing with your arms directly at your side.

I remember as a personal trainer, I was taught when I’m training my client to stand with my arms at my side.

It was one of the hardest habits I had to get out of.

And when I did professional speaker training, they made us stand with our arms by our sides for days when we were presenting, to get us out of that habit of closing our body or fidgeting.

We often just go to this pattern unconsciously and don’t even realise we’re doing it. So you’ve got to train yourself. You need to practice it. It’s probably going to feel weird at first, but practice, practice, practice.

If you’re calm, and certain and confident, then you can easily just hold your hands at your sides.

When you’re in a meeting, when you’re speaking on video, when you’re chatting with a client, are you using open or closed body language?

It matters.

Also, remember to use your hands. Your hands add flavour, interest and colour to what you’re talking about.

Don’t overdo it; don’t be distracting. But just use your hands naturally as where they want to move to.

2. The body language of certainty

People who are certain about what they’re saying use certain body language.

Using gestures with your palms down shows certainty.

Using strong hand gestures where your hands are straight and in a natural position with your palms facing each other is also a certain position.

You can also use your hands to drive your point home.

With certain body language, you’ve got to read the situation.

Body language is not ‘one size fits all’, it’s about using what is appropriate for the person or people you’re with.

Standing tall with your head up is also a certain body language pose.

If you’re on stage and you want to come across confident, you want your body language to be bigger.

Certain language is bigger. Compare it to people who are very shy and nervous and awkward – their body language is small and more tucked in. They try and make themselves small to take up less room and not be so seen.

Very confident people try and take up more space.

It’s very similar to the animal kingdom, animals that are trying to exhibit their territory or their power or go really big.

Think of a peacock, or a gorilla beating its chest.

3. Symmetrical body language

Another body language of confidence is symmetry.

As soon as you tilt your head to the side, as soon you put your lips to one side, or lean on one hip or put your weight on one side, you look less confident.

Asymmetrical posture makes you look more confusion and less confident in what you’re saying.

When we’re certain we have symmetry: our feet are together, we stand with even weight on both feet, and we’re not tilting or leaning or torso or head at all.

If you want to come across more confident in your body language, this is a simple hack that you can apply straight away.

If you’re making an offer to someone, avoid going asymmetrical in your body language.

If you do it too much, you’ve lost it – it’s usually game over.

The body language of confidence is very symmetrical.

It doesn’t mean being stiff and forced. Just bring awareness to it and think about how you may be coming across and being perceived by people.

If you want to come across more confident, if you want to command more respect from people – and you can still do it in a nice, friendly, open, warm way – be symmetrical.

Symmetry is one of the most important parts of confident body language.

It doesn’t mean you’re symmetrical all the time, but when you’re delivering your message or presenting your offer, having enough symmetry in your body language is crucial.

So, to recap the 3 parts of confident body language

1. Open body language

2. Certain body language

3. Symmetrical body language

So, how’s your body language?

Are you being open, certain and symmetrical when you’re making your offers?

The first step is awareness.

I have hundreds more tips on influence and how to attract clients and inspire them to sign-up to what you’re offering.

If you’d like help in this area, I’d like to offer you a free, private 1-1 strategy session.

Together, we’ll create a game-plan on your best next steps to being a more influential business owner who gets results.

Click this link to book your free 45-minute strategy session.

Business is too hard to do alone.

So don’t struggle, make sure you reach out, I’d love to help you overcome your business challenges and get the results you deserve.

Kat

 

 

 

 

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Body Language, Business growth, Communication, Communication skills, Confidence, Influence, Influence skills, marketing, sales

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