If you have your business online, we know that we need to be showing up regularly and presenting on video.
If you’re like a lot of business owners that I speak to, it can be really challenging to show up confidently as a presenter, because this skill is not natural.
A lot of people say to me, “You just seem so natural.”
This is a trained skill to be able to stare at a lens and engage people. There’s lots going on behind the scenes.
If you imagined an iceberg, there’s a surface of what you’re seeing.
There’s a lot underneath that makes a presentation engaging. That makes someone come across as confident, as trustworthy, as influential as someone that they want to follow.
It’s a trained skill.
We’re all born not being able to talk yet we learn how to speak. Most of us can easily get out 1000s and 1000s of words a day.
When it comes to public speaking, a lot of people freeze even if they’re sitting in the safety of their lounge room at home.
If you’re not confident when you share on video, whether that’s on a Zoom event, or a Facebook Live, or in your prerecorded videos where you’re showing up on camera.
If you don’t show up confident people don’t trust you as much.
There’s a lot of research that shows that women generally aren’t as confident when it comes to showing up and presenting as men.
I was talking to a mentor of mine, David Blustery recently, and he was saying, you know, a bloke will watch a TED Talk and go, Yep, I’m an expert.
A woman will do a diploma and think she has to do another diploma, to feel good enough.
It was interesting that he said that because I’ve noticed working with hundreds of women and men I’ve observed that.
I believe women tend to be a bit tougher on ourselves. We need to develop our confidence and be able to step into our power as business women.
I think there’s a fear that we will come across as too masculine, too direct, too pushy.
Too much in our masculine if we want to come across as powerful.
True Confidence is being our authentic self. Being in our genius zone.
True Power is when we are able to show up elegantly and authentically be ourselves but also to show up with confidence.
- Imagine that you had absolutely unlimited confidence.
- Imagine what would you do differently?
If you had unlimited confidence…
If you just had no fear of what anybody thought…
…no fear, no doubt no comparison.
How would you show up differently in business?
What would you do differently?
If confidence is something you want to improve on as a presenter, and also if you’re serious about enjoying the incredible benefits this video will help you.
At yesterday’s workshop “How To Get Clients With Online Workshops” I asked the ladies what they found challenging about presenting.
The five most common things shared were:
- Fear of looking stupid or incompetent
- I talk myself out of it by thinking others are more experienced and ahead of the game than me
- Feeling like I look like I don’t know what I’m doing/talking about
- Wondering if people really want what I have
- Feeling like there’s too many people out there who do what I do and no one will ever see me
These are blocks that hinder us from showing up in our fullness, and sharing our message with the world.
There were three light bulb moments I had that allowed me to overcome my fear of presenting…
I had a massive fear of presenting…
I would always be so nervous, really fearful…
…not just like, “Oh, I feel a bit nervous,”…
…butterflies.
…full on bright red, anxious, heart racing the works.
If confidence is something that you want to improve focus on these three things.
1. Make your purpose bigger than your fears
Many people fear speaking to a group, because at a primal level, we want to be part of a tribe to feel safe.
If we go right back to our ancestors, sitting around a campfire, and people are looking at us. If they see something in us that causes us to be exposed and expelled from the tribe.
In our ‘hind’ brain or reptilian brain, we feel at an unconscious level that if we speak up – we could die!
But I believe that this fear is one reason public speaking is so powerful. It’s scarce to find people who are actually good at it.
I think that the reason not many people are good at it is – is because we are wired to be afraid of it.
It’s not until we override that fear with our big WHY that we can move through the fear to get our message out.
2. Overcome nervous with service
It’s not about you – it’s about your message.
When you’re speaking to people, the more you think about yourself, the more you’ll feel fear because you’re thinking about looking good and avoiding looking bad.
If you’re speaking and you’re constantly thinking about how you’re looking, how you’re sounding, what people are thinking, wondering if people are judging you etc. – you’re going to increase your fear.
When you focus on the audience and your message, you get downloads come to you and new insights come out of you because you’re PRESENT.
It’s about your message coming through you. THAT can reduce the fear.
I believe we all have a message to bring forth and a mission to fulfill on this planet to fulfill. If you don’t do it, no one else is going to do it.
So focus on the change you can help someone make in their life.
3. Focus on your genius zone and bring unbelievable value
I always think – if you focus on value, your price doesn’t usually become an issue. People who want to argue with your price, usually aren’t ready for the value you bring.
If you focus on price, you’re always trying to justify the value.
If you don’t work in your genius zone, you will keep having to justify the price
Remember to prize Yourself
Entrepreneurs aren’t charities
When you’re passionate about your niche…
…and you have really specialised knowledge.
You have the right to bring confidence.
If confidence is something you want to improve on as a presenter, and also if you’re serious about enjoying the incredible benefits of…
- Exponentially building your business
- Becoming someone that more people listen to
- Sharing your message in a greater way
- Helping more people
- Being an inspiring role model
…the key is to upskill yourself as a presenter.
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